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male
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:How long before my ex fiance will sense any feeling of regret or fear of loss? We broke up just a week ago because of something fairly insignificant that got blown out of proportion, emotions were high and we both said things we regret. She told me in the past that she doesn't see herself being with any other person ever, her feelings for me are definitely genuine and I still love her like crazy.I'm optimistic that she will regret her decision and try and rectify it but how long should it take? She IM's me at random to ask how I am and what I'm doing, she comments on a lot of my facebook wall posts just to add her opinion when she never really did when we were going out but she doesn't leave kisses at the end of messages anymore. We connect on an unbelievable level, we share the exact same likes and dislikes, we have common interests, I can make her laugh all the time, etc. We are perfect.After we broke up, I acted kinda desperate for a day, saying about how I'll change and I'm sorry for everything that's said and I need her back, she responded badly to this but still said she loves me. Later I told her that the breakup was for the best and I'm happy to move on, she responded positively to this which upset me a little.She does a lot of things to try and get a reaction out of me, things that I would normally react to but I'm not, is this the right thing to do?Should I just give her space for a few weeks and hope thaat she contacts me.
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 You guys sound like you are inlove. I think that deep inside, the two of you still love each other but you rather the other person to believe that you are totally getting one with your lives. You said that you fell out because of something very significant? I do not think you should let that discourage you. Sometimes, these significant things are life's way of testing our strength, capability, intellect and we tend to react bad to them in most cases.I admire your strength. You are doing the right thing by standing firm and not running over crying but can you stick out with it for long? The things that you want, she has a negative look on it and the things that she does not want, you have a positive look. This is all a play. She does not want to be seen as the weak one and she will not be the first to say "Hey, I made a mistake so let's get back together" but know she is regretting it as she said that she does not want anyone else.I think she wants you to beg her to come back. It may sound silly but as women, we tend to want the guy to say sorry first, come back first etc. If you really love her then you may approach her and talk it over and try to win her back but do not do this for a couple of weeks. See, if anything interesting happens on her part.Best of Luck!!!
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