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anonymous
writes:I recently split with my girlfriend of 7 months. Basically, she started a 70 a week job in another part of the country and i felt i had to go be with her to make it last. I went there to try her job and live with her. Unfortunately, we fell out. She got two guys she was living with to throw me out. Then she ignored me now for 4 weeks and apparently slept with one of the guys. Its strange as she was a great girl and genuine i believed. Since, in the first 2 weeks i called and sent countless nice texts. Then i sent less and didn't contact her for a week now. I've felt so bad and i want to know what you think i should do. I love this girl, even now and want to know whats the best way to get her back, or at least talk to her for a chance to understand. I figured i should say nothing for a while but for how long? What should i do next?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): Well actually you're right. If i felt someone i could get with was possibly getting with someone else or not bothered about me anymore, i would worry and it would make me want her more. So i see what you're saying. I just keep thinking of things i could say cos she's only 19 and i feel others are influencing her, especially this guy she lives and works with
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2008): To be honest i feel really angry how she acted. Theres another part to this story, her job is a brainwashing cult of a door to door sales job. The cobra group. Lots on the net about them. The job has changed her. Before it everything was fine. So i wonder if i should try to get her out of this cult. Got to read about the company to understand my thoughts. Lots of worried partners writing about it on the net.
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reader, Miss Potter +, writes (27 October 2008):
 Sounds like she does not want to be with you and well made it clear she does not want to be in a relationship with you...Just leave her be, if she changes her mind she will let you know and then it will be up to you to decide whether you still want her back or not. You are just pestering her with your txts and calls, i am sure she is nothing but annoyed with that, Ive been in a similar situation myself.
Hope this helps
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reader, goingnuts  +, writes (27 October 2008):
 If I were in her place the calls and texts would probably be annoying. I would wait for her to contact you. When she does... Don't seem overly excited to hear from her; just let her talk. Even after you guys have talked, give her more space. It will make her feel like she has lost control; which she does have right now it sounds. It might take some time for her to miss you; but sometimes being apart from each other makes a relationship stronger. That's what I'm trying to tell myself right now anyway. =] What about you? What would you do if it were the other way around? What would make you go back to her?
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