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writes:i'm kinda a fish outta water when it comes to relationships, being that iv only had one, ever! which im still in, im jus wondering how long should i be with my gf before we sleep together? Reply to this Question
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reader, xylplxym  +, writes (12 December 2007):
Hmm This is really quite easy. Just look at your right hand. See a wedding ring there? No? Then you aren't ready ace. Look, I know everyone thinks its okay to just have sex when you both think you feel ready. Only problem with that is that your still just "thinking" your ready. If you were married then you would know for sure (granted you got married for a good reason).
And if you are with the girl just because you want sex, then be all means, risk ruining the relationship, getting her knocked up, and crushing her self esteem because she will feel used. Those are all great things that comfrom premarital sex.
Yeah, I know Catholic bias, but listen me. You are just starting off, don't do anything stupid.
And personally I am disappointed that I'm am the only one saying wait til marraige.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): to me it's not how long u both need to first get to know each other then if u both are comfortable and talk about it and ready then go head but if u guys are not mature enough to decided and ur not sure if ur ready then u both shouldnt do it at all only u two know wen the right time is no can tell u wen is the right time it's ur life ur decision but think wisely don't rush sex is not everything sex should be done if two people love each other and their mature enough to share each others feeling andone should not force or rush the other person it takes time to know if ur ready sex is a big thing and there are risk so take it slow cause if u both have sex and things turn out wrong then that will tell u that u guys rushed and wasn't ready sex is a precious thing share it with the one u love do it with the person thaat ur sure u gona spend the rest of ur life with u don't want to regret and remember being s virgin is not bad it's good the more u wait the better u feel and the more you'll be sure and happy and satisfied. u will know wen the time is right.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): to me it's not how long u both need to first get to know each other then if u both are comfortable and talk about it and ready then go head but if u guys are not mature enough to decided and ur not sure if ur ready then u both shouldnt do it at all only u two know wen the right time is no can tell u wen is the right time it's ur life ur decision but think wisely don't rush sex is not everything sex should be done if two people love each other and their mature enough to share each others feeling andone should not force or rush the other person it takes time to know if ur ready sex is a big thing and there are risk so take it slow cause if u both have sex and things turn out wrong then that will tell u that u guys rushed and wasn't ready sex is a precious thing share it with the one u love do it with the person thaat ur sure u gona spend the rest of ur life with u don't want to regret and remember being s virgin is not bad it's good the more u wait the better u feel and the more you'll be sure and happy and satisfied. u will know wen the time is right.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (6 December 2007):
My personal advise is to delay it as long as you can.Why? The older you grow the more confidence you gain and that area requires alot of confidence.The most important thing is to get your partner to love you and at your age she should be your best friend.You should do alot of fun things together apart from sex or else she'll find you boring and think you are only after her for sex.Infact don't think about it too much and the sad truth is that if your girlfriend isn't ready and you force her,you really won't enjoy it.So please take your time and wait,wait,wait till she's ready.Unless you are virgin and it bothers you that you are and wana lose your virginity you can come up with what is called a seduction plan but i'm not gonna explain it to you here.Take care.
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (6 December 2007):
 First of all, there's no time limit, set age requirement...however, YOU do not do anything that you are not comfortible with...and even if that means till you get married. You do not compare yourself to another. You do what is morally right in your heart and think wisely with your head...and I do mean the top one!
To many young adults feel as if they have to meet or beat their friends or because they "talk" about all the sex they have had and some could be virgins but they do not want to say it or they could be called some "name". It is no one's business but your own.
Never feel pressured and never feel you have to do something just because "everyone" else is doing it....you will know...and you will know when it is "really" right.
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reader, kenny + ♥, writes (5 December 2007):
 Thats a tough one to answer because ultimately it varies from couple to couple. Some people may go out on a first date and decide to have sex straight away, while others leave it till they are both ready. I think it would probably be best to steer torwards the latter. Take your time, get to know each other, and when you both feel the time is right, and you are both comfortable then go for it.
All the best & good luck x
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reader, maggie1987 +, writes (5 December 2007):
 theres not such a thing as how long you should be together before you sleep with her. you should sleep with each other when both of you are ready and feel like its the right thing you want to do.
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reader, anon_e_mouse +, writes (5 December 2007):
 Well I tend to just go with the flow... If I'm in a relationhip she'll let me know when she's ready and I'll wait. With my first girlfriend I was a virgin at 17 and I think we first had sex after about a month... I was so nervous as I had never done it before and it was over in about 10 seconds :) We stayed together for a long time after that.
My last girlfriend was a bit different. We had flirted with each other for a while when I worked in a pub and she used to walk past, or come in just to see me. After about a week we had sex for the first time but there was a lot of flirting going on for sometime beforehand.
The answer is whenever you're BOTH ready. If you really care about her then be patient and she'll let you know when she's ready. It's NOT a race!
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (5 December 2007):
 How long is a piece of string? There is no set time frame...get to know each other...maybe kiss and cuddle and get comfortable with each other then, when you are both ready, go for it. good luck.
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