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writes: Hey guys, new question for you. It's been almost two months since my ex ended things with me. She's seeing someone else, and I'm working on not contacting her, but also trying to remain friends, I guess. I have my ups and downs. I still love her though - is there any time when I can tell her how I feel about her or should I just stay out of things, and see what happens in the future?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2006): Stay out of this. Telling her your feelings is interfering with her new relationship. Telling her your feelings likely will not accomplish much at this time. You could be shortchanging your own healing process by setting yourself up for immense pain and frustration, again and again. If she were to unattach herself from this present bf, I'd say 'go for it', however. But because she's with this other guy, it's time for you to move forward. It's important to remember you can never regain something that was left in the past. Change your focus to the present and deal with the state of things as they are, instead of clinging to the memories of what you once had. In a nutshell, you need to have respect for the relationship that the both of them are in together. Really work at getting through this because as long as you are you will not be fully free to love again. Indeed, you may tend to judge current or future girlfriends against the first girl and find that each of them fall short by comparison. Time and patience is what you need. Stay steady and strong and I wish you the best.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (11 April 2006):
 I don't ever think theres a perfect time to ever let someone know how you feel, espeically someone from your past. you could wait until the end of time and still never get a perfect moment to tell your ex how you feel.
i guess you'll just have to wait until you feel its the right time, but remember to ou wait too long your ex might move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2006): i know how u feel i feel the same way about my ex bf and he is with my worst enemy and it kills me everyday but i have a bf to and i am trying to be happy just do what i do bite your tounge and say fuck it
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