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writes:Hi,Have you ever been dumped and then your Ex can back? If so, how many weeks\months did they come back? Did you use any tactics or behave in a certain way for this to happen, such as No contact etcAny experiences appreciatedthx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): I think it depends on how someone takes the breakup. If you take the breakup as a chance to mope and eat gallons of ice cream and seclude yourself from life, I don't think that's much incentive for someone to want you back in their life.If you take the breakup as a chance to get yourself back together, work out, do the things YOU want to do and live your life, I think it can rekindle a spark that person once had for you.
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reader, smeedle +, writes (23 April 2008):
 You broke up for a reason, if the problem is still there then you should not even think of getting back together.
Yes ex`s do come back but there is no time scale to this and yes there is a chance that she will realise what she has lost and want you back, but do you really want her back?
If its meant to be then it will, you just have to try and move on with your life and not live in the past, its the future that is important and there will be other women, you just need to get over this one first.
Breaking up and the time after is the hardest part, they say time is a great healer and to some extent it is, but you have to go through the pain and part of that is the wishing it was all back to how it was, she is back in your arms and you are both happy, well this is seldom the reality and so you really must try and leave the past in the past and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): Hi thanks for advices but really more interested in discussing this as a debate rather than receiving advice. This discussion came up at work the other day with colleagues. Does anyone have any examples of this happening
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reader, salvation +, writes (23 April 2008):
sometimes an ex will come back sometimes they wont dont get hung up on the ex coming back move on with your life
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): It depends on the reason you split up in the first place. If it was something you did then you will have to think long and hard of ways to win your partner back. If there were trust issues such as infidelity or lies then the one who got hurt may take a lot of coaxing to return to the relationship, if at all. If you parted because of a misunderstanding or silly argument then you could try some humble pie, say sorry and promise to do better in future.
Communication is the key and if you really care about the person then you will have to examine your own behaviour to change and win them back. If they have moved on permanently and don't want to re-establish things then the best thing is to let them go.
One things for sure...sitting around doing nothing won't help. Try to busy yourself with other things, be kind to yourself and then try to make amends.
Hope it all works out for you
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