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writes:I sent my ex a let's get back together letter. I told him to take his time and think about it. I know he'll definitely answer (he would never not answer) but it's been 4 days. It's a good sign that time is passing bc I know he actually is thinking about it but does a person really need to think about it that long? or at all? if you want to get back together, you would know, right? how long do you have to think about it for??We dated for over a year. Things got tense bc I kept pressuring him to take the relationship to the next level when he kept telling me he wasn't ready. I wouldn't listen and things got more and more tense until we broke up.
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reader, lucky lynne  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 I would mention that he must tell you, if he is now single. 4 days isnt a long time,doesnt indicate its over yet,more like its just a disagreement. It is likely he has a dread of being pressured into your way of thinking. I would mention that if anyone comes between you,it will mean no return,as whatever is or is not your fault must not result in this type of hurt,and the fact youre not together now is no excuse if he has plans to come back later. How long to think about it is hard to say,but you need to know where you stand.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (25 July 2009):
 YOUR ex bf is probably having a think about things. yes normally the longer it takes him to reply the more he has doubts. but he cud generally be busy with his life too.there's nothin u can do but wait til he gives u an answer.good luck
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (25 July 2009):
Gidday,If you know he will respond, let him take as much time as he needs. Sometimes the length of time is a good thing because he could be very much considering your request. He also may be reluctant through fear of being hurt again. This is your chance to prove yourself. If you make contact he will feel pressured again and you may lose any chance you have of reconciling. Take this time to reflect on yourself. Question yourself as to why things got intense. It's a good time to do some healing for yourself so things don't go as they did before. Try believing in the love you shared. Good luck.
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