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writes:I have been with my boy friend for a few years and we havent had sex yet? How long would be a good time to be with someone before you have sex with them? Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball +, writes (16 December 2010):
 Wow, 3 years and no sex huh? Well, you can be sure he's not a player! Have you been waiting for any particular reason? I think you should do it when it feels right. That can be different for everyone so there is no hard and fast rule.
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reader, FluffyPie +, writes (16 December 2010):
 As long as it takes for you to feel ready. Trust me, you WILL know when you're ready. I assure you that it's an overwhelming emotion mixed with excitement and butterflies in your stomach. And I'm not kidding nor inventing stuff, I've been there (or maybe it's different for each individual). That's the peak. After that, all you have to do is decide the date and time when the "great moment" takes place.:)PS: I don't recommend jumping into his bed from the very beginning or the dating phase, even after 8-9 months (or more), especially if you're not certain of his feelings or if you can't see in him a potential long-term partner. Any doubt, any fear, are signs that you're most unlikely ready to have sex.And most important: don't let yourself influenced by the external factors - friends, society, parents (YES, they can't decide your feelings), and don't forget to use protection. Best wishes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Whenever it feels right for you. It can take time but as long as you are both comfortable with eachother and you know when you're ready then go for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 December 2010): Follow you parent's advice/orders and wait until you are at least 30!
Only joking, do it when you feel you want to! If you want it, do it and don't wait. If you feel that you never want to have sex with him then you need to analyze your relationship further.
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reader, priyanka92  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 honestly i think you should do it when you both feel that its the right time to do so because its not something to be planned in advance neither is it something you can delay... when the moment is right it will all fall in place and you can go with the flow...personally one should not rush into it because the hottest of relationships have the coldest endings..:)
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reader, soon567 +, writes (16 December 2010):
I would say on the night of your wedding.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (16 December 2010):
 You can't really set a time line to these things. Either you two feel ready or you don't. My gf and I waited 9 months and it felt right when we did it. Generally I will say that you shouldn't in the first month or so that a couple is dating but after that it really doesn't matter if it is what you two both want.
Same goes for saying "I love you". It doesn't matter how long two people have been together, it's about how they feel and the quality of time they have spent together not the quantity.
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