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writes:Forgive me if this is a little long. I met the most amazing man in the world! He gave me faith in men and relationships again. He's extremely romantic, very sweet, and just all around an awesome man. He's extremely gorgeous too, so he's like the total package. The short few days we spent together were some of the most amazing days I've had in my life. I truly feel like he could be my twin soul! There are so many different things about us that are alike it's freaky. We talk a lot, through the internet, text messages, or phone calls. I really like him and I would love to possibly be in a relationship with him one day. There's just one problem. He doesn't live in the same city as me, not even close! He's always traveling for work. How in the world am I supposed to "catch" this one, or not let him slip through my fingers? The pain of a broken heart beats the pain from regret. I can't not do something or else I'll always wonder "what if?" and it will haunt me everyday. There's another slight problem. For those that say I should just visit him on the road whenever I can, that's sort of hard for me to do. I have a small child, I can't afford to do that. All of my money goes to my child, and it's still much to early for him to start buying me a plane ticket to see him. I'm too scared to just come right out and tell him how I feel. I'm pretty sure he kind of has some sort of idea with how we flirt and certain little things I say to him, I can't do the usual dating routine with him either to get to know him better. (That part doesn't matter much to me anyway, everything I find out about him I love. Even the fact that he travels for work, I find it very fascinating what he does for a living.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2010): Thank you for your answers! I'm terrified to tell him how I feel because we've only known each other for a very very small amount of time. I don't want it to scare him off. the last day I saw him, it took everything had in me to not cry. We had only spent a few days together, but I felt like we were already a couple in those few days. He met my friends and met my child, (I usually don't do that because I don't want my kid to get confused about my relationships). They all loved him and vise versa! He fit SO well into my life, it was like we had been together forever and we were meant to last. What if he doesn't feel the same way right now, what if it's too soon for him? Also, I think he may have just gotten out of a long distance relationship this month. (Well, anything for him would be long distance anyway) I don't want to rush things for either of us. I just had my heart trampled on not too long ago. He wouldn't be my "rebound", I've already had my rebound man since then and of course, it didn't last because I didn't really want it to.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2010): i agree with caringguy and he has helped me out before gives excellent advice to people and i like to read the advice he gives people cause he his always spot on with the right answer i myself am in a long distance relashionship over a year now and find it so hard been apart from him and sometimes feel its all one sided cause he his the quiet type and that i dont mind cause i am quiet type too but he keeps his feelings to himself he more shows me his love than actually says it and even though he has kept to his word of been honest and loyal to me from day one we met and kept is commitment of texting me every day and msn every day odd phone call but i feel i need to ask him where do i stand but dardnt cause i dont want to know the answer incase he says cant do this long distance thing anymore i am getting the feeling its going that way on his part seems to be quiet on msn and as told me not the same as having conversation face to face and its not once you meet them i want to tell him i love him so much and would love to spend the rest of my life with him but again dare not say it i should do really cause often i get upset and cry a lot about this situation all i want to know is he working to have a future with me cause hes one of these guys he bottles a lot of things up and dont tell you how he feels shows it but i feel i need reasuring so take caring guys advice and TELL HIM says me who wont dare ask my man if he his working towards a future with me dont let him slip through your fingers cause sounds like the soul thing to me and i have that with my man finish each others sentences off he his like me in a mans body and i am sure you and your man have the same thing the soul thing GOOD LUCK.....
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 June 2010):
TELL HIM. :). That's the only way. There's no use in being scared not to tell him, because that's precisely the thing that is getting in the way. If he lives that far away, there's no way he will click that you like him this much unless you tell him. You said yourself that you didn't want regret? Well, unless you tell him how you feel, that's where this is going. He's not a mind reader, especially from so far away. He's not even close enough that you can just hint to him that you like him. You really do need to be totally brave here and come on out with how you feel.
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