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writes:He's 26! How important is it if a guy has no friends. Not a party animal.. doesn't drink. And his last relationship was (2) years. ago. Is that a warning sign that he can't be in a long-term relationship with someone? Great guy but I have my doubts about starting a relationship with a guy like that. I'm the total opposite! Reply to this Question
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reader, blue_crush88  +, writes (13 January 2009):
I dated a guy like this for 3 years. Its great in the way that you can trust them and everything but one thing you should be cautious of is not that he can't keep a relationship but rather that if you do get into a relationship with him--he will make you his entire world. This may be nice at first but he does not have friends so he will want to be with you all the time. My ex was like this and i couldn't stand it because I am a sociable person and I like to have a life aside from my significant other. He doesnt have friends for a reason--my friends didn't like him so bringing him out was not very much fun and also he was very jealous of other males which is huge for me because a lot of my friends are male... The break up was even worse because not only was he devastated but he didnt have any friends so I felt bad knowing he was sititng at home while I was out having the time of my life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): An independant guy. His heirachy is probably God, Man(him), woman (you), child, friends.
Everything is in the correct order here. I can't understand your problem. You have seen so much 'fools gold' you don't recognise the real thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): girl you have a found a real good guy this time..don't leave him at any cost..though i may get a bit partial her cause he sounds a bit like me..but unlike him i have got friends..ask him about his past..you will surely found out that he was friends with just two three guys..and those friends were more than brothers...at least i think so..and you can trust him..he will always treat you right..he will love you so much that some times you would feel does he really loves you so much or is he faking it? i think he is a great guy..and doesnt need a gf just for the sake of it..be free to discuss your problem with him but in a polite manner and tell him why you would like a bit change in him and do it emotionally.. usually these guys are the emotional fools type...(sorry no offence)i am sure he will understand
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): I need to ask this.Doesn't he even have a single friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): I am with a guy like that who is extremely shy and I feel blessed that he is in my life for the past 5 years.He is my rock.He is the shoulder I cry on.He accepts all of my friends because he trusts my judgment of character.He has made my friends his friends and enjoys equally along with us.
He is just great.I bet if your boy friend doesn't abuse you in any way,he would make a great partner any day.
But if you feel that you cannot stand him or accept him as he is,its time to take a step back and think.Write down your options.Then decide.
I just wanted to let you know that I have a guy like him and its working out well for me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): If you don't want him, I'll have him#!!
He sounds like my perfect match. You and him are different, he's introverted, your an extrovert, you like going out and having fun, he likes staying at home, and dosen't want to have too many friends. Normal, but harder than if you are both similar people with similar hobbies and attitudes. Please don't think this guy is strange, from where me and him are sitting you seem the strange one. He's different from you, no problem, communication, compromise and understanding will solve all things. Get him to go out with you sometimes, and then sometimes you both stay home. You will never change his personality and he can never change yours, but you can compromise and meet somewhere in the middle, in a place that suits you both.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2008): He is just mature above his years. Perhaps the fact that he is different may mean he isn't your run of the mill loser. I would hang on in there and see how things develop rather than jumping to unfounded conclusions.
Good luck
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reader, Griffo  +, writes (25 December 2008):
 He's a great guy but maybey he's sort of over the party seen now some guys do it all between 18 and 23 then realize there's a whole lot more than just getting hammered and trashed all the time.
Maybey be dosent like the friends anymore he was once apart of he probably just wants a nice gf to hang out with and love. Plus young ppl tend to have the belief that its uncool to not party and get hammered all the time. So he might be labled a no friender where really he might just have heaps. He will treat you very well, he's a rare find. he won't play games. Enjoy. You will be respected. The sex will rock too!
Just make it clear the type of girl you are and make sure He's cool with that.
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reader, shaashiie +, writes (24 December 2008):
 That's just probably just his personality. He may not enjoy those things. I don't have many friends but it's not because I can't be in a long-term relationship - I've been in one for 3 years. People look for different things in friends, he may look for a deeper and more meaningful relationship than going out for drinks at the bar. People enjoy different things, opposites can attract ;) He may help you bring out a different side of yourself and you may do the same for him, it could be fun to see what happens!
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