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writes:Hello,I started a new job a little over a month ago. I love it a lot and definitely do not want to have to quit. However, I am extremely attracted to one of my managers ( the one that hired me no less!!) Whenever she's around I can feel my heart beat faster and I get really nervous. I love seeing her smile too! It makes me so happy when she's happy. Sometimes when we're talking I'll ask her (jokingly) if she loves me and she always says yes .How the hell can I work around my feelings so that I don't end up fired? :C Reply to this Question
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reader, lover06  +, writes (31 August 2011):
i agree with personal12345 , if she likes you like that she will make a move, i am sure she will in the mean time you could find other things to do.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (29 August 2011):
 Absolutely stop asking if she loves you. It will lead to the end of your job if you keep that up. If you were a guy, your write up on your employee evaluation would indicate that you had a potential for sexual harassment and they would be building up a record so they could fire you with no chance for reprisals.
Here's something I ask the teenagers on here to do from time to time. None of them have ever managed to do a decent job, in fact only one or two have ever even tried. In all fairness, being a teenager is difficult, all those hormones and not so much practice being more grown up leads to a great deal of confusion. The primary result is that teenagers appear to be self-absorbed and unable to look at situations from the other side. So here's my challenge to you.
Pretend that you are the supervisor that hired you and you are afraid that the teenager you hired is getting inappropriate thoughts about you. Write the question she would ask here at DearCupid. Include relevant information like, is she married or involved? Has she had this job a long time? Does SHE want to keep her job?
My bet is that you won't be able to do it, no teenager has yet.
The thing is that you need to work on seeing the world as others might see it, not just from your small, narrow perspective. There are consequences to your behavior and actions and maybe thinking about them from the other side will give you the ability to curb your inappropriate comments and behavior.
Or just put a rubber band around your wrist and snap it when you are unable to focus. The pain should take your mind off your fantasies and put it back into the moment.
So, are you able to write the question from her perspective?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (29 August 2011):
 Try to not joke around about being in love with her and such, and try to just keep your distance. Sounds like she really likes you as a friend, but try to keep it that way unless she makes a move on you.
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