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writes:I've been with the same man for over two years and he says he wants to committ yet we both have trust issues actually we have a lot of issues but always say we love each other it'll be ok, My main one issue is : IS it ok to say you want to be committed to someone and yet still want and to go out evey other weekend or any chance you can get with friend's and be told to bad just accept it ? Reply to this Question
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reader, Just ~J,~ +, writes (5 January 2008):
Just ~J,~ is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you to everyone who answered was good insight Thank You And ponungalungbou Your right thanks , but if I go out he has a FIT,, I'll even tell him ahead of time who & where i'm going & he'll EVERYTime make sure to show up there,, so Guess I may need to just move on. Have a great weekend everyone !!
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (5 January 2008):
 If he wants to be with his friends on every other weekend, he's not ready to commit to a relationship. He wants his cake and wants to eat it too.
Is it O.K. for you to go out with your friends too? Or are you expected to stay at home and wait at his beck and call.
If you love someone enough to be in a committed relationship, you want to be with them. It's that simple.
If he says "Too bad", I'd say "Too bad for you. I'm going out with my friends too." What's good for the goose is good for the gander. But not good for a committed relationship.
Good luck.
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reader, 2old4this +, writes (5 January 2008):
 Well, don't get married yet until you figure out the issues that you have, or at least work on them. When you get married you have to compromise on things. Both of you do. If at the end of the day you can't live with the way it is and he wont budge on the issues then maybe it's time to move on. You have to trust each other for it to work. And you have to do what is best for you.
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reader, sxcarshalz  +, writes (5 January 2008):
In my opinion i believe a relationship is built on trust and you need to trust your partner in order for them to trust you. trust works both ways. You can still be committed into a relationship and go out and have fun with your friends. If the reason why you cant go out is because you dont trust each other you need to start trusting each other i suggest go out with him and your frinds and thier partners so he can see what your like when your out. Also trust doesnt come back over night it comes gradually.
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