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*ad romaance
writes:Okay I am currently in a 3 month relationship with my first boyfriend ... still a virgin hes not .. im not sure tho wether i want to "fool around" yet he tries to but he understands that i am inexperienced haa but i dnt want my nerves to ruin it or leave it too long ? what should i do like how early is too early ? thank you :) x
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 Well I got into things gradually, my first hand job on a guy was a long time before losing my virginity. But I was only with the first sexual partner for a month before I touched him. I lose my virginity two months after going out with my boyfriend at the time.
So it's nothing to be ashamed of if you do wanna take it further. But only if it feels right to you. It's good that you have a boyfriend that understands and wants to wait. But you can do other stuff without having sex. Just take it slow =]
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reader, Sanita  +, writes (19 April 2010):
I think ur too young to have sex but it seems af if you have already made up your mind. If your boyfriend really loved you he would wait. I know you said he doesn't pressure to to have sex but I also know that he's a guy and when that 'feeling' overtakes a males body it causes them to think differently-instead of them using their heads they'll use their penis. Plus when you become sexually active you have to think about too many things, safe sex, pregnancy, infections. Just enjoy your youth while you can, don't be in a hurry to grow up, you just might regret it in the future.
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reader, Redoctober +, writes (19 April 2010):
Hey again,
If you feel your self confidence isn't letting you then you are not ready yet I don't think. Until you are 100% sure and ready, my advise is to wait. Be patient. You have loads of time.
If he feels you are the one he wants to be with, he will be patient too and it wouldn't be an issue. Good luck
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reader, cnith  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 You don't want to lose him over "something as stupid as this" ??
Honey, what?! No... That's just wrong.
Virginity isn't stupid. Giving up sex to your partner isn't stupid. It's sharing each other's bodies.
Virginity is special because you only get ONE. That first time should be special and memorable as a GOOD thing.
Some people rush into it too fast and end up with horrible stories. I lost it on a plastic mattress, back of a truck, at his parents house, blah blah blah... and after that he dumped me. UGH! Horrid stories.
No, you wait, as long as you need to. Right now I can tell you're not ready and I can tell he's pressuring you. He said he's not but he is. If he can't wait, without pressuring you or making you feel guilty for not doing it, then he's the wrong guy. Move it on down the road and find yourself a guy who will respect you.
My first time was with someone I will love forever. It was romantic and beautiful. I have no regrets. The relationship didn't go to marriage, which is sad, but I'll never forget him and I'll never regret it because he DID wait for me. It was ME who said OK go ahead. Not him. You'll always remember that first time. So make it a good one.
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reader, bad romaance +, writes (19 April 2010):
bad romaance is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have decided that its him who will take my virginity nd i no he is ready i just feel guilty for taking so slow. I want to my self concience just wont let me.
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reader, Redoctober +, writes (19 April 2010):
Hello,I am 27 and I had my first sexual relationship when I was 20. It is up to you to decide how early is early although I would advise leaving it as late as possible. Your virginity is yours and no-one should influence you or force you to give it up. It is something which you cannot take back once you give it away, it is special and you should want to give it to someone who deserves it.So my advice is be really sure if you are ready to give it up, know the consequences and then make your decision. You are only 16-17 so there is plenty of time....trust me. If you do decide to go ahead, then make sure you practise safe sex. Good luck
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reader, iwishiknew  +, writes (19 April 2010):
 I left it 3 months with my ex boyfriend, I don't really think there really is "too long", just let it happen whenever you are comfortable... and if he doesn't respect that you might not be ready, then he isn't the right person to fool around with! There are plenty of guys who will be willing to wait around till you are ready, and a bad experience can really hurt, so it's best to wait till your 100% sure to save any heartache x
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reader, bad romaance +, writes (19 April 2010):
bad romaance is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeh i noo wat you meen last week he tried to coax me along into doin it but i froz nd wen i got home he sent me a big message sayin he was sorry nd he didnt mean to pressure me .. I just dno wat to do :( i dnt wna lose him especially not over somthin as stupid as this
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reader, TimmD +, writes (19 April 2010):
 There is no specific timeline. Only you can tell how long till you are ready. There's only one important thing to keep in mind: Go at the speed YOU want to, not him. Do what you feel is comfortable and don't be pressured into anything.
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