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writes:My boyfriend and I just started going out 3 days ago, and he's already trying to say he loves me! He's 16, I'm 15 and I don't believe that what he's feeling is love yet. I mean it's been a couple days, how is that possible? We hang out almost every day and we have even before we went out for a couple weeks. He says I'm beautiful and his type and stuff. and we almost had sex on the weekend but it didn't happen (thank God). I told him it was too early to say he loves me and he's still trying to say it's not. I also told him it's too early for sex but he doesn't seem to think so. I just don't know what to think.. what is going on with him? And what does this sound like? Reply to this Question
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reader, estanie +, writes (24 October 2008):
 if you feel that it is too early then it is! i would have with my boyfriend the first night we met (a few years ago) but he rather get to know me first and he doesn't look at me as a sex object. thank god i have a great man! but go with your gut feeling...and make sure his intention isn't only to hit that and quit...you know what i mean?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes, he has had a girlfriend before. and he has had sex. and i have also had boyfriends before. and i have had sex. (it was kind of a serious relationship, not for long but we were close and we ended up losing it to each other) so yeah. i just don't know if i should have sex this early.. i mean it's not like i'm losing my virginity to him. sooo? i'm just confused as what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Obviously, it is too early for anything. But again, it is that self decision you have to make wheather or not to allow him into you.
If you are planning to be with him for sometime, it is best you give all for your relationship. But if you think you are too young and havent decided on your man, dont rush, just be honest and tell him you need time to know he is the one.
Guys are very persuasive at times, hence know what you are doing and be concious at all times. Remember, you are the architect and engineer of your actions and outcomes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): it's probably just lust he's feeling and the both of you guys are young! looking back i thought and felt the same way...but now i realize that it takes a while (at least a year) to really know someone and be in love. and sorry to say but men will say anything just to get you in bed. if he truly cares...he wait and stay faithful in the meantime! i've known my boyfriend since high school and we've just started dating for 2 years and we haven't had sex yet! there is definite feelings between us and we both want to have sex...but we want to trust another 100 percent before taking that to the next level! he's 26 and i'm 25 where we make sure we mature decisions because there is alot of emotions involve with sex. just do whatever makes you happy and hopefully he puts your happiness first and won't pressure you or lie! people these days don't think about the consequences of their actions and then they are left feeling hurt...just keep your guard up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): It sounds like he's moving too fast for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Well, to start with, has he had a girlfriend before? Has he had sex before?
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