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writes:hia. im 15 and im pregnant. im so terrified. i dont want to keep the baby and want an abortion. can i go throught with an abortion with out my parents finding out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 November 2008): hey, i know how scary it is. when i was 14 i was raped, i ended up gettin pregnant because of it and i was petrified, i didnt tell my mum for a fortnight but then i cried for like 2 days solid and she asked me what was up and i told her, i thought she was gonna go mental with me because i was pregnant... and although she was, it wasnt my fault.. i am totally AGAINST aborrtions! they are awful, so i refused to have one, i was willing to have the baby but i misscarried.. thats a different story but what i mean is... our mums love is unconditionally and althought they might not agree with everything we do, at the end of the day all they want for us is the best, be upfront with your mum, explain to her, tell her your pregnant, dont be afraid, dont be ashamed, she wont be happy, but she'll soon come round! re think about the abortion please!! good luck babe x
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reader, deejuliet  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 I am in the USA so I cannot give pertinent advice on where to go. I am glad emilyanswers is able to give you the answers you need. So I just want to say that I am so sorry you are having to go through this trauma at such a very young age. This is a horrible decision to have to make at any age, let alone when you are still a child yourself! Please consider keeping the pregnancy and giving the baby up for adoption. However, if you do decide to go through with the abortion, good luck. Get a support system, someone you can talk to honestly about everything you are thinking and feeling. If you cant go to your parents than perhaps a trusted girlfriend or your boyfriend? Your emotions are likely to be on a roller coaster of pain right now and in the near future. You are making a very big decision and you need to make the decision that is right for you that you will be able to live with. It is not true that if you have an abortion you will ruin your life or regret it forever or anything awful like that. But it is an incredibly painful decision that you will have to live with and I dont want you to go through it alone.
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reader, Teacake +, writes (13 November 2008):
 You really need to tell your parents because you have no idea the hell you will feel after the abortion. I was in the same situation when I was 18. It is the most lonely thing a girl can ever go though especially by herself.
You will also not feel well for a few days and its possible for complications too. If you tell your parents they will make sure you have the best medical care and they will actually have more respect for you that you had the courage to come to them rather than keep it secret.
Abortion affects the emotions in a way you can't even imagine right now.
Just go to them and tell them that you have a very big problem and are afraid to talk to them about it but it is very important and you need their help very much.
Once you go though this you will view sex a lot differently. It is not just about fun and games, its very serious matter.
Please have your parents help you otherwise you will suffer emotionally in a way that you can't imagine at the moment.
I went though it alone and I ended up in a mental hospital for a long time. It was horrible to be all alone in something this serious. OKAY? xoxo a.
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reader, meganasks  +, writes (13 November 2008):
An unwanted pregnancy can really scare you, but there is nothing scarier than going through this alone. As a mother, I always dread the time that my daughter may come to me and admit that she had made a mistake. However, I'll be very grateful if she will come to me for guidance and support rather than going through the experience on her own.
I hope that you will overcome your fears and find strength and support from your family. This is the time you will need them the most, whether you decide to get the abortion or not.
Most mothers will understand. Please consider talking to your mom about this before you do anything drastic. God bless you!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (13 November 2008):
Go to your local faily planning clinic.
Put the name of your town and family planning into google and there will be a website where you can find where it is.
Most of the time you can drop in without an appointment and they will be able to talk you through it all and the legalities of your parents finding out. Anything you say to that nurse when you see her is confidential so please go and see them.
Here is a helpline as well - it's the http://www.careconfidential.com/ helpline. Their webiste is also useful. It's 0800 (so free from a phone box) 028 2228.
I know your parents might be disappointed that you had underage sex and got pregnant but they would not want you to go through an abortion alone.
Telling them may be hard but it could be for the best.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (13 November 2008):
 I think that you should tell your parents. I know how terrified you must feel, but if you were to have an abortion, you will look back and regret it, even if you can't imagine it now. I just don't feel right telling someone to have an abortion because I feel like it's still taking a life even if the baby wasn't wanted.
I don't know what your home situation is like, but I hope that your parents are like most, they love you and want the best for you, and they know best... please tell them. Good luck.
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