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*picolee2002
writes:I've decided to go for a divorce with my marriage of 9 months. I can't talk to my wife and have not been laid for 3 months. This is crazy and she's driving me out of her arms. I've tried and tried to let her know that I'm not happy. I do well in life and can do or go anywere in a few months but I'm getting dragged down by my wife not being a wife. No sex and most important communication. She does not like sex like in the beginning. I left a relationship of 10 years based on lies. I have a few problems. I have lost my erection sometimes but I have a medical prob but have meds that make that goes away. I know it takes two but should I just come out and say we're not going any where so why try. I should tell her that I'm sick of trying to make it work. I've given her every hint in the book but never get a answer or reply. I do well in life and were almost out of debt. My debt was under $10,000 whereas her's was like over $30,000. I hate myself for leaving my ex because we never needed anything to be happy and we had it good. I think I should just let the lease run out on my acrage and move back and clear my mind and divorce on abandonment. I've looked it up and if your marriage is full of no sex or romance you can leave it. I'm so embarrassed about how short this marriage is. What would be the best way to say either we ship up or ship out?If she's not happy whats the point right? I'm just wondering how to get this over with the truth do to my wife not responding to me in anything bad I'm telling her? Touchy or what but life is to short not to be in a relationship full of love. Please some one out there let me know how to end it peacefully. I love her but I'm not happy and I don't think she is either. Please answer without judgement. Peace to all
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): I read your question and your article and I thought maybe this might help though maybe you have already ended the marriage? Not sure.
Anyway here it is and if it helps that would be good for you
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/spicing-up-your-sex-life.html
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (10 September 2012):
 have you asked her what's going on?
for us it has come to a near complete halt because no matter what my guy does he will never satisfy me...
how old is your wife? I'm 52 now and my back is so very painful for me most of the time I just want to sit in bed on my heating pad...
does she stay because you paid off her debt? I know that part of why I stay is because of how he's helped me financially.
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reader, spicolee2002 +, writes (10 September 2012):
spicolee2002 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou don't understand one thing. When we met and were making love it lasted for hours but now it's at a point were she don't try and kiss me passionitly or love each other. No it's like just let's get it over with. I like to satisfy my partner but it's like she don't care anymore there for its getting laid then. She was so great in the beginning but the longer we don't make love the harder it gets to get back on board. Peace.
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reader, spicolee2002 +, writes (10 September 2012):
spicolee2002 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI ment making love but when the wife just wants to not kiss passionatly and do anything that's diffrent then getting on top. Plus if you leave a guy waitting for months without sex it don't last long. We use to make love for hours and it was hot however I call it getting laid when it's just wham bam thank you mam. I love my wife but need attention to. In the beginning it was hot but when things change by her not having her drive anymore I just never understood it. What went wrong and the longer you leave it the worse it is. Peace and smiles.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 September 2012):
have you told her you are not happy and want out of the marriage?
she may be relieved that you want to go and not sure how to tell you she's sorry too...
btw ROMANCE is not a requirement of marriage... and the comment "I have not been laid" tells me you only see her as a vessel.
Maybe she doesn't like sex because she wants to make love and you just want to get laid?
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