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writes:I would like to open a topic of conversation for anyone with knowledge about what it takes to win back a lost love. Especially one who seems to still be interested but trying to act cool so it isn't showing or at least he doens't think it is. Cause the world around him is watching and they see thru him like a book. Let's just see how many views we can get on this it just might help someone get back their lost love....ANYONE??????? Reply to this Question
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (7 November 2007):
 Thats great news, all you need to do now is take it day by day.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question On the 24 of October we staring talking again. We are back together. It seems when he realized that my ex fiance was a bit seroius about me and was hanging around alot he decided to persue me again.
We have started doing things together that we never did and he has even become interested more in my health concerns. We have been talking alot more when we are together and spending a good bit of time together too.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (21 October 2007):
If they think there is a possibility of you seeing someone else that can sometimes speed up their thinking.
Take care.xx.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo I am being a friend, I call him occasionally just as I did when we first started out. I hang out with only one person who is a good friend. He calls me every week, I will say it is more often than he did even when we were first dating. He does seem to want to talk to me. I hope that my being there but staying backed off a bit is the right thing. I have always been a good friend and I don't change that with any of my friends. I have been dressing nice and acting the way I did when we first met. Not all into him but not totally ignoring him either. I know that I am a friend he knows he can trust and count on. I can still make him smile. I kinda feel like I am sitting here in limbo. If anyone can give me a hint of how to get his mind thinking let me hear from you. Thanks for the help it will be appreciated.
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (19 October 2007):
You need to recreat the feeling he had when he was in love. With something new and exciting added.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe's already been calling again only a week after we split. He's been noticing how much better I am looking these days even without him. He has already seen with me someone else, who by the way is an old b/f but only a friend. I raised his children. This he knows too. He is calling me from states away because he is travelling alot with his job. The calls come in not only once a week by several times until he reaches me. Is his wanting this realationship to be returned to what it once was? By the way I am giving him all the space he needs. I don't do much contacting him at all and although we still hang out in the same places I don't act eager to see him or talk. I do however treat him like I would anyone else. With kindness.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 October 2007):
Let them know how much you love them and then leave them to it, my husband left me sept 06 and i fought for him all i could never leaving him alone and constantly phoning him trying to find out what had gone wrong because even though he was seeing someone else i knew that was not the reason for our split.
In march i changed tactic i thought to myself this is not working so i am just going to back off, by may he realised that he had been ill and he had made a huge mistake and we have been back together since then and we are happier than ever.
So the key like Brooke5426 said is give them their space and let them miss you.
Take care.xx.
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (18 October 2007):
 i think the biggest thing here is to give the person space. let them miss you, if you give them a few days or weeks however long feels right then back off completely for a while then lay it all out on the table and tell them exactly how you feel. then back off. leave them alone because there is nothing more you can do. its tempting to text/contact them constantly but thats the worst thing you could do so just leaving them alone and giving them space to make their mind up is all you can do really.
if they come back they're yours forever and if they dont they were never yours to begin with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): hi to win back a lost love all depends on how you lost him in the first place and under what circumstances,was it a mutual seperation or was it soley on your part.if you truly love this man,you will firstly have to forgive him and then tell him that your truly sorry for all that has happened and how much you love and miss him and want to start over
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): Hi, I posted earlier but I saw this. a about a year ago I left my gf, because I thought I had no feelings for her anymore, but I was young and immature. Now after a year, I have grown to like her again even love her again, because I reallised how fantastic and caring she was. However she wants to stay friends. during this time we got on so well we are really close, she has even told her mum that she is confused, that she may be falling for me again. We did everything together, went out for meals, I was there for her when she was lonenly and wanted someone to be with her. Now she has gone to Uni, she is quite a way from me, but I wont give up on her, because I love her so much. I have just found out she has a boyfriend but from what I found out I dont think he is right for her. But now he is taking over me, and there is nothing i can do about it. What shall I do? please help!!
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