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writes:hey i need help my boyfriend I mean my Ex-Boyfriend has some psycologic problems he suffer from Philophobia ( love phobia ) he Told me he's afraid when i asked him of what he said afraid to fall in love with u i told him falling in love is not something scary it's a beautiful feeling but he said he has phobia I said Phobia what kind of Phobia he reply " Phobia ..Just Phobia , anyway I'm so tired honey I should go to sleep " After that he's ex show-up and ruin everything I Trusted her we've talk in Msn and I told her a few things I shouldn't say it and She send him the conversation .. I found out That when he were about falling In love with me I ruin everything by trusting this dirty person Anyway My Question Is " How can I treat someone who suffer from Philophobia ? "
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank's Guys for helping me . Honestly we are in a Break-up 3months ago & I still Love him so much , he were my first , he were so nice to me , our story were so special .. u Know Guys It really hurts so much to hurt him to hurt the person i love the most , he doesn't trust anyone even their friends who knows them since he were a little kid he doesn't trust no one but me !! & guess what we know each-other just about 2years ago ! he Told me a Huge secret about his life ! HE TRUSTED ME ! I can't Let it go & Movin on ! I love him & he needs me ! i know that ! Even if he said he dorsn't want me in his life anymore but i'm sure he's lost without me ! I know him well ...I can't let him down & in the same time i can't wait for something which may not happen att all ! i can't stay & wait for him to asked me getting back with him or at least to forgive me about what i did to him i can't confront the Unknown .. i don't know what to do ...
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (29 August 2011):
 The best way to treat him is to let him go find his own treatment and don't spend any more time worrying about him or his ex. Guys who say things like that are either serious, in which case you are far too young to become a nurse, mother and psychotherapist rolled into one, or they are trying to put distance between you, which means they aren't really the right guy for you.
The best way to deal with that kind of phobia is to leave him to solve it while you go on about your life. You're not his wife, his mother or even his girlfriend. You are an ex, and usually the best way to be an ex is to vanish from their lives completely.
Good luck.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (29 August 2011):
 Well, YOU can't treat him. You are his girlfriend, not his psychologist. He may need one - since I don't know him, I couldn't tell you that. But if his phobia is interfering with him being happy and healthy, then he should look into talking to someone professional.
Otherwise, what you can do is not pressure him, not ask him if he loves you, not push the issue. If he loves you, he'll show it - he may not say it, as the words somehow make it official and add pressure - but if he shows it, that should be enough for now.
Apologize for saying too much to someone else, and if he wants to continue the relationship just chill out on the love front and let him demonstrate with actions, don't pressure him for words. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): Doesn't sound to me like he has a phobia hunny more like a cop out and I'm afraid he's used this phobia nonsense to make you sympathise with him in the hope you'l stick around for this nonsense!
Ditch both people, why would you be so desperate as to want this boy to fall inlove with you when there hundreds out there who will do so without all the effort your giving.
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