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writes:hi i'm 17 and my boyfriend is 19 and i believe he stopped caring about me and i dont know how to make him understand how hurt i am and i truely love him with all my heart. i put up everything of me into this relationship .... but the thing is im always the one who has to basically beg him and cry to him and make him promise me to do stuff with me. he really likes to make money and he thinks it will make me happy and it does a little, it shows he cares about me and willing to share. but he never opens up to me. never tells me how he feels and when something is wrong he doesnt want to talk about it, yet when anything happens to me i always tell him the bad and the good .. Lately all we do is just argue and fight once he used to be with me completely .. but now it seems as if he's dedicated to making money and nothing else..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): hi sarsarthank u for sharing and assistng :) i m sorry im from israel and my english isnt very best but i think i know how u felt too because he tells me that i usually rather not to hear but he says to be honest is most important in relationship but i dont really want only bad honesty i wanna know how he feels about regular stuff ! and right after i posted this question he messaged me and he told me that hes giving me a night to think if i want to stay with him .. i told him to not do it to me but he said all he done ever was hurting me and making me cry and that i deserev better but i really want him and love him with all my heart :) .. couple hours later he told me that forget about all this he was stupid and he wants to be with me for ever he never loved anyone as he loved me ( what he said ) and now we are back :) but it does hurts alot but for him ill take it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2011): hii...i'm actually in a pretty similar situation right now. my boyfriend and i have been having issues because a few weeks ago, he suddenly decided that he wasn't happy in our relationship the way that he used to be. like you, i've been crying and begging...and he finally let me come see him this morning. we were talking about our situation, and he told me that he's just really, really stressed right now. and money is actually a factor in his issues...he's trying to make as much as he can because he's got quite a bit of debt to get out of and such.i think maybe stress is what's causing your boyfriend to act this way, too. and if that's the case, then you're probably in the same unfortunate boat as me. you'll just have to wait it out and see how everything goes. just give him space and time to figure out everything that he needs to figure out. i know how hard that is, but so far, everybody seems to think that i'm on the right track by doing that with my boyfriend, and i'm sure that it would probably help your situation as well.buuut on the downside, he might NEVER open up to you about his feelings. my boyfriend and i have been through some pretty complicated times during our relationship--i was there when he found out that his ex was pregnant with his baby, i was there when he made the decision to go back to her and try to make it work, i was there when she broke his heart and he came back to me, i was there when he started getting a little less scared and a little more excited about having a son, and i was there when he found out that she had a miscarriage. you might think that he would have been pretty much blubbering on my shoulder through all of that...but he actually told me veryy little about what was going on in his mind during any of it.the bottom line is, guys are just different from girls. this is something that my mom has pounded into my head all throughout my relationship with this guy. they're not always going to talk about their feelings, because most of them feel like that makes them weak. according to her, my dad isn't veryy verbal about his feelings, either...and even though i know that drives her crazyy sometimes, they've been married for almost thirty years and are doing great. it really depends on the guy, buuut sometimes, us ladies are just going to have to learn to accept the fact that men just don't want to talk to us about whatever it is that's going on inside of them.my advice to you is, as i said earlier, give him a little time and space to figure things out. continue to let him know that you love him and want to make everything right, but don't pester him about it 24/7. i actually went for almost a week without talking to my boyfriend, and i hadn't attempted to see him for about two weeks. then, when i did text him, i asked him if i could come see him, and he actually agreed. and i don't know about him, buuut i actually think that things went pretty darn good whenever we were hanging out.i hope that this little rambling session has been of at least some assistance to you, and i hope that everything works out for you and your boyfriend. be strong, and keep your faith in God. you're gonna get through this...and if what you and this guy really share is true love, then everything is going to be fine between you two. love never fails. ")good luck, and God bless,~sarsar~
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