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writes:How do you tell the one you love you love someone else? I have been with my boyfriend a year now and I'm very happy. I started talkling with his best friend and I'm starting to have really deep feelings for him and I don't know what to do... I've tried telling my bf that I like his friend and he said I can't be with both of them, I can only choose one. Of course I picked my bf, I can't imagine life without him but I can't get over his friend. When I stop talking to him it hurts and I miss him horribly. I don't know how to tell both of them I love them and how to be happy with my bf knowing I love someone else.
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reader, Dinkie  +, writes (23 November 2009):
you shouldnt tell them it will only make things bad between them and you will end up losing your boyfriend and be alone....other than that if you like someone else and cant keep it to your self you shouldnt be with your boyfriend thats just not fair on himpick who you want and keep it that way if you pick your boyfriend then you need to forget his friend
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (22 November 2009):
You don't tell either of them ANYTHING!!
Why on earth would it be a good idea to talk to either of them about this? This is your problem, not your boyfriend's and certainly not his friend's.
When you have feelings for someone it will only make yourself feel better to tell them, it will make things worse for both of them. It would be very VERY selfish to say anything to either of them.
You are just finding out what it's like to have a connection with someone and yes it feels great, it's one of the best bits of being an adult. But you can't go crazy on it yet because all three of you are just learning how to handle it all.
Talking about it is NOT the answer.
You need to accept that you are with your boyfriend. You chose that so you stick with it until you choose not to be any more.
So as much as you like his friend, you need to stop talking to him. You need to take responsibility for your own feelings and not break up a friendship. Stick with your boyfriend, or be single. It's not fair to do anything else.
Sorry hun, being a grown up is very hard but you need to learn to deal with it.
Good Luck!! xx
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