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writes:Hi aunts, I need your advice. I am 27 yr old single guy. Recently after almost a year an old female friend, she is 22, got in touch with me. she got married a year ago and after her marriage she moved out and we kinda lost touch. I was attracted to her as she was sexy. Now she told me she moved with her husband out of country thats why she lost touch. We have been in touch on mail only and have been chatting with her for several days now and sometimes we chat for hours. she told me that she is kinda lonely as her husband is busy with his work and she doesn't have any friends there. Now I want to know how to start an online affair with her. She is giving me signs but I do not know how to take it forward. She is lonely and she needs the company and I too enjoy her company. I know if I wont step up then she might go for a guy there or some other guy. I do not want to lose the opportunity and at the same time do not wanna rush it in.Please advice on how to take it forward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): thanks Q.....I know the poster will appreciate it too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): http://lmgtfy.com/
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): You want to start an online affair with a married woman? Online or off-line, it is totally inappropriate, not only for you, but more so for her. Sorry, but there is no excuse for this. She has a husband and therefore should be discussing her loneliness with him, how their move has affected her life, what they can do together to improve her life whilst he's busy working.
Secondly, she should not be on the internet looking for guys to hook up with, instead perhaps if she tried looking for some work if she's not working yet, enquiring about local courses at college where not only would she improve her mind, social network possibilities, but also, and more importantly her marriage.
If she is not able to accept marriage is a partnership, and that it can at times be lonely, especially if a partner has to work long hours to keep things going, what is she bringing to the marriage? You should not be encouraging her away from her husband, albeit online, as it can be powerful stuff, and she sounds vulnerable due to her circumstances, and that should not be taken advantage of.
You can't go looking for affairs just because you feel lonely in a marriage, that is no basis for any relationship, nor shows any real commitment to make it work. And IF she can spend ' hours' chatting with you online, then those hours should be put to good use in supporting her husband and finding ways with that time, to do so.
Sorry, but affairs are not nice, in particular for the partner that will always find out, or they get neglected, wonder why, and end up feeling betrayed, is this really what you want for this friend and her marriage?
There are plenty of attractive young single girls, sexy too, looking for a relationship, why not go for a single one, and spend less time online and more time off-line, going out!
Jilly
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (3 July 2010):
 So you want to know how to participate in ruining her marriage, do you?
Because that's what it amounts to.
Well, for reasons that ought to be obvious, I'm not about to tell you.
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