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writes:Has anyone ever worried that your ex will talk sh*t about you? Like exaggerate things about you so that you sound worse than you actually are. Like, I guess I was a little clingy when my ex broke up with me, like I tried to stay in contact even though he was trying to cut me out. Looking back on it now, I guess I came off as a bit desperate, and I regret it. This isn't a major worry, but sometimes I wonder if he told his friends about all this. How do I shrug this off? And has anyone ever been in a situation where they've found out that their ex has been bad-mouthing them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCindyCares - thank youuu! That really gives me some perspective (and made me smile :) ), you're right, I shouldn't care.
Thanks Mr Smith, I will! ;)
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reader, Mr. Smith  +, writes (5 April 2011):
JUST SMILE AND BE HAPPY...beleive it's not like he told his friends about your sex life or similar stuff...forget it do not waste your time worring on things that do not merit attention. BE HAPPY!!!!!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 April 2011):
 How do you shrug it off ?.. You raise your shoulders of about half an inch then let them rapidly drop :)Honey, this is not a minor issue, this is a non - issue. He may, or may not, have told his friends that you acted clingy or desperate. So ? his opinion. Do you still care about it ? Why ? He is an ex. Do you particularly care about his friends having a high opinion about you ? Why ? Are they likely to offer you a prestigious job, or giving you a substantial loan? based on your level of past clinginess ? No ? ... Enough said. Don't care about the opinion of those whose opinion there's no need for you to care about ( I like this ! It sounds like a zen proverb ! )
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