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writes:Which is the best way to say sorry to your gf/bf when for not being available in their time of need??? I know some things are just not forget but how can we make it little less hurting for them. I feel really bad for caring less for the person whom loved me the most. I don't want this to go on anymore and want to make her feel better, how to do this???? Reply to this Question
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (18 July 2011):
 The best way is to tell them in person. If you can not, a nice, handwritten letter.
If you talk to them in person, let it be somewhere peaceful and quiet where you will not be interrupted.
Speak from the heart. "I wanted you to know that I have thought a long time about what happened (name where you let them down) and I am so sorry about not being there for you.
What I should have done was (give specifics) and I failed to provide that.
I hope you can forgive me for this. Your friendship means the world to me, and I did not show that to you."
DO not make excuses or defend why you were not there for them.
Once you have given your apology, say nothing more unless they ask you questions. You will now need to listen.
The friend may not want to respond at at all. That is when you need to give them TIME. Be really gentle during this time with how you move forward, because your apology actualy reopens the wound a little again. (They might revisit those feelings of being let down by you.)
Hopefully, your sincerity can help "clean out" that wound, and let it heal properly.
After you have done all you can do, make sure you back up your apology if you are needed again. You never know when you might be called on to proove it.
Also, if your friend does not accept your apology right away..be quiet and give it time.
Best Wishes.
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