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writes:you are dating someone and you break up and you don't have time to heal because they call you and act like nothing has changed and then they suggest to you to move in and act like roomates but they also say I love you and call you sweetheart and so on and ask for a hug once in a while and tell you things you feel they are trying to make you jealous? how do you react to this when you feel the person loves you deeply and you do the same but fear that they are scared of letting go or testing the waters to see what you will do?
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reader, taina1980 +, writes (10 September 2009):
real love doesnt allow you to hurt another person. and when its real you know it. you dont have to think about it. sound like hes playing head games... oh he wants you but he also wants his cake. take you out of the equation and all he has is a lousy piece of cake nothing special about that. he knows how you aare feeling, he is well tapped into your emotions because your post you sound extremely romantic sweet.. my motto is you gotta love me or leave me alone. life is too short for, oh baby yeah, i love you, but lets just be roomates and maybe ill go into your room late night make so called love to you, make you feel real good, but dont you pressure me girl. i want my freedom & im gonna do what i want to do. or baby ive been hurt so many times you know, gotta be careful. who has time for that nonsense? either it is or it isnt. real recognizes real. everybody wants the real thing and when its not, some just play games cause in their hearts they really dont believe in it. but when you find a fool that does, why not get what you can out of it?its a thing of convenience. i tell her what i know she wants to hear, but not too much, it might make her think its that serious. or i really like you baby, if i had to make a choice youd be the one. but phew! thank god i dont have to because youre diffrent not like the rest, youre fine with the way things are right now you give me the space i need to think... thats why i care because youre so patient . ive been hurt so man times that i have to test her loyalty by playing childish games. your too good for that and at our age we cant afford to be waiting around for a maybe,who knows how long this can take. im sorry its the truth...maybe he cant make it on his own and needs finacial help either waywho needs the drama?
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reader, Naiked  +, writes (10 September 2009):
This could be pretty hard, but if its over let it stay that way; If you allow it to continue this way, then am sorry you'll be used and dumped all over again and who knows this time it might be a worse break up.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (10 September 2009):
 Cut the contact. When he calls, either do not answer the phone, or don't return the message. When he asks for a hug, say no. When he starts telling you things that prevent you from healing, cut him off in conversation, and verbally tell him that is a boundary not to be crossed.
This is no time to be polite.
In this context, a person can only take advantage of you if you let them.
-Frank Kermit
http://www.franktalks.com
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