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writes:How do you play hard to get when texting a guy?I know most people don't like the idea of the 'play hard to get' game. So please, if you're one of them, this question isn't for you.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Playing hard to get is what my father meant when he told me many years ago that "a man chases a woman until she catches him."
The trick to this is, of course, to strike a balance: don't play SO hard to get that he thinks you're not interested!
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reader, Odds +, writes (14 March 2011):
 Don't do it by text. Ever.
"Hard to get" works by using words and actions to seem disinterested, while conveying with body language and facial expressions that you actually *are* interested. This is what drives guys to chase you - and by chasing you, they become invested in winning you over, so it makes them like you more. It works, it's good fun for everyone, yay for hard-to-get.
Problem with texting, though, is that "hard to get" is indistinguishable from "not interested." It frustrates guys, rather than enticing them. This compounds the effect texting has on effort - namely, texting is so low-effort that it does not really get a guy invested in you. It's just a little extra free attention for both sides.
If you must play hard to get from a distance, ask him to make an actual phone call, then do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): If you have to 'play hard to get' with a man then you're not a woman worth 'getting' in the first place. He will only think you are not interested and will either lose interest himself or decide to play games with you because he knows you are doing it to him. If you genuinely like a guy and the guy genuinely likes you, you would not need to play games or play 'hard to get'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): To play hard to get by text by not texting back. My rule of thumb for these kinds of things is twice as long as it took him to reply to your previous message...
But do be ware that its very easy to come off as uninterested and like you just want to be left alone! Good luck!
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reader, Blod  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 Don't text back straight away? Also if he asks you a question, you could possibly try putting off answering it for a bit. As in, give open-ended answers or ask him questions to keep him guessing. But don't do this too much or he'll think you're not interested!
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