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writes:Hi, I'm 22 yo, just moved in february to another city where i know nobody. I am a very social person by nature, i like to talk to people, but I couldnt make any new friends. I only met this one neighbor with whom i spend some of my free time.. My question is how do you make new friends in a city where you know only one person and your co-workers?? (i dont want to meet coworkers outside of work)I used to have some very close friends, but had to cut most of those ties (cz of some past family issues), so now i'm left with 5 not close friends (u know, texting from time to time, stay in contact through social media).. I met most of my friends at school and college - but now you can say they become like acquaintances somehow.. Some of them are in other countries now, other cities.. It sucks, and i dont know how to meet new people..
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2020): A good start is with your co-workers; who are locals, and able to get you more acquainted with the area. Then you can pick and choose. Don't rush yourself, it takes time to adapt and acclimate to new surroundings. It's not quantity, but the quality of people you meet.
It's good to look into adventure-groups and travel clubs; where you'll meet young professionals, or people who are adventurous and extroverted. Visibility is always your best way to meet new people. Jogging, doing volunteer work at local charities, take an art class, or learn a new language. The exposure is good, and you feel a part of something.
If you're in need of social groups, you can get involved in sports; and join a gym with workout classes. If you're into fitness, of course! Clubbing and bars are better when you already know people, and you're hanging-out together. Going there specifically to meet people; when alcohol is involved, it's not a good idea. You need someone to watch your back.
You're in a new city, and over time your face becomes familiar, and people will warm-up to you. That's how it happened for me. I moved several states away from home; for a great job. I made friends with neighbors, my co-workers my own age introduced me to other people. I took some courses for my job; and met people there. I got invited to parties and events; and made sure to introduce myself and exchange numbers. I networked with people in my field of work when I traveled to local seminars, or at offsite meetings. It was nice getting acquainted with people at other branches. Then I ventured out on my own.
People accustomed to being popular and surrounded by a lot of people sometimes need to feel a part of a large group of outgoing-people. That might make you anxious and too eager to be noticed. Unless, you're that kind a person; it's easier to systematically acquaint yourself with people in your age-group with the help of your co-workers. Try not to get caught-up in cliques; or overwhelmed by a party-crowd that might move things too fast, or get you too involved in a drug-scene, or too much drinking. You're a fresh-face, and that makes you vulnerable to the likes of people like that.
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reader, malvern  +, writes (23 June 2020):
 Join a dancing school. Have a look on the internet and see what dance schools and lessons are available. There are so many different types of dancing from Jive, Swing, Modern Jive all of which you do not need a steady partner, to ballroom, ballet etc. etc. Dancing is great fun and the people who go are always very friendly and keen to help you. It does not matter if you feel you cannot dance because they will teach you. You will get to know so many people and I can assure you it will change your whole life. I have been dancing for 20 years and I wish I had started when I was as young as you. Just do it !! Look on Youtube at some of the dances I have mentioned above.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (21 June 2020):
 What are your hobbies, sport? Sometimes it can be a good way to meet new people through hobbies or sport. It help that you SHARE that common interest.
So many look into what kind of groups or teams you can join?
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