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writes:Hi everyone,This isn't the first time I have written to you, and last time I got some great advice that would normally work, but not in my relationship. I don't know if it coming to an end... I have lost everything, my friends my job. I just wanted to know before I end up blabbering on if you could answer me these two questions...1) How do you know if your girlfriend is cheating on you, what signs are there?? 2) How do you know when the reltionship is over or coming to an end?if this is any help its a gay reltionship as signs often differ... Reply to this Question
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reader, shiraz +, writes (18 October 2008):
hiyah again the fact she wont talk and barely recogniseyou shows lack of comunication and fault in your relationship. dont blame yourself here i thinkthe way she is acting has something to do ith her as a person maybe something deeper than shes letting on. you being made to feel slightly used and her 2nd best to everything is going to damage you so you need to sort it now, how ever this takes to and shes unwilling to cooperate, youve done all you can and youve fought so hard for so long and got nothing back this has to be telling you something?
can i also add this isnt about telling the world your problems its about getting advice and help with them and i can assure you they do not go any further and all you get from it is advice and guidance, mention this to her as i think she feels alone in this and although is pushing you away might actually need you more than ever right now its hard and you must feel constantly defeated but you have to draw a line at some point only half of this is your problem you shouldnt be taking it all on yourself
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reader, storm08 +, writes (16 October 2008):
storm08 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thank you for the reply... beleive me i have tried talking, and it doesn't work. nothing does.she looks away or doesn't answer like she is taking it in but getting it out her head before its registered. ive tried me being affectionate, me being sensitive, me being playful, me trying to make an effort, me giving her all my attention and trying to laugh and joke with her, everything i did that made us fall for each other. Just me being myself. its like she dont want to be with me but dont want to be on her own at the same time. i know its more than that, but she wont open up to me, i asked her to get help, talk to me or a friend or family and she said no, i told her about coming on this and she said no why should she let everyone know everything. i cant win. what is left for me to do?
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reader, shiraz +, writes (16 October 2008):
hiyah, firstly im sorry your feeling so down and it might seem it right now but its not all bad and eventually will get better (although i know its easy to say that). the signs that a relationship are coming to an end are obvious, no more contact physical even just normal things like saying hello or asking how your days been becomes a strain. you start to become distant you no longer seem to talk. please dont jump straight to conclusions that your gf is cheating although if she was i think youd know, i think you need to talk she can answer all your questions and it could make or break you its a risk you have to take but you can no longer go on like this wondering how things are, what if etc. you need to get this out in the open and i understand that is hard in any situation but dont let it get you too down.
im sorry this hasnt helpped but you need to be in the relationship to realise the problems its up to you to sort it sooner rather than later - best of luck x :)
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