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writes:How do you know when you are right for each other?This is just a general question to see what other people's experiences and advice has to offer. I don't believe in "soul mates" at all and I do think that there can be more than one person who is right for you. But how do you know when you have found someone who is? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (9 March 2007):
 If you are right for one another then you respect them for who they are, warts and all. You want to look after them and protect them, you look out for them and put them first. You feel happy and content in their company and enjoy being together. Above all you can be yourself when you're with them. You never try to be anything more or someone different because you don't need to. You don't have to impress them to win them over and you never have to play games to make them like you. There is trust and understanding on both sides and you feel safe and secure within yourself. You would never undermine them, they are not someone in whose company you feel threatened or small. They are someone with whom you can share your innermost thoughts and worries, a person with whom you should be able to share anything, they are your friend and your confidante and you can be honest with them at all times, you can tell them anything because they love you as you are.
He/she may be someone who is the direct opposite of you. On the surface you may seem like chalk and cheese. Whilst you may be loud and forceful they may be quiet and thoughtful. You may come from different backgrounds, different countries or be twenty years apart but this doesn't matter. There is an unspoken language between you, the spiritual connection between you both is so deep that you seem to be able to communicate without even speaking to each other. You are happy to lie in silence together. You feel sometimes that there is no need to talk because you feel that you know what they are thinking anyway. You feel so close to them that sometimes you think you could almost read their mind. You know when they are worried, in pain, or sad just by looking at them. It is as though there exists some kind of telepathy between you.
If you are right for one another your love will stand the test of time, you laugh together, cry together and even have your differences but this doesn't matter, you love that person AND their failings. You come together in a crisis and work through things together and this just brings you closer. You take their feelings into consideration in all that you do. They are the most important person in your life!
Simple! ;o)
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reader, JnikkiM +, writes (8 March 2007):
 I think I might buy her book, its only 7.99 on amazon because I'm still looking for that answer. I do believe there is one person out there for everyone but not everyone gets to find that person. So you just have to deal with the cards dealt to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2007): OMG you just do! I know it sounds crazy but when you see that someone, you just know. I saw my husband just once and said to myself and my girlfriends "see that guy over there?" "that's my future husband!" I just knew, mind you - i didn't even know his name. Married 10yrs together 14. You'll know =)
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reader, chachacha +, writes (8 March 2007):
To answer your question, I highly recommend that you consult this book
http://www.amazon.com/Are-You-One-Me-Avoiding/dp/0440215757
I can't tell you how many times I turn to this book. It's really really superb. Buy it now and use it for the rest of your life!
The answer is in there, and the answer is too long to fit into a Dear Cupid page.
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