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writes: My ex bf spoke to me online today, our first contact with one another in 3 weeks. Last time I saw him we were having sex, cheating on his new gf. Today he told me he was single again. We flirted a little, and I know if I put my mind to it I can win him back no problem. But how do you know when it's time to move on? I love him to death and half of me wants him back, but the other half of me is teling me that if it was meant to be I wouldn't have to keep fighting for him. I love being single and don't mind staying as I am now, but I really love being with him to, it's just he's such hard work, a lot harder than any other relationship I've been in, and I've been on and off with him for a year, each time he breaks it off and I fight to get us back together again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 November 2006): You two are as bad as each other!!! This relationship is doomed to go nowhere so why do you prolong the agony. He cheats on his gf with you. You can't really feel good about yourself to let this happen??!! Move onwards and upwards. I bet as soon as you are FREE from him completely you will start to feel really good about yourself and your life will take on a new meaning.
This cannot really be doing anything for your confidence or self respect.
Let go and leave it gone.
Best Wishes and take care xx
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (14 November 2006):
 I think it's time for you to move on. Neither of you seem to know what you want from this right now and probably won't until you take a step back and work out where you both are with this. I know how you feel; it is hard to see when something is going nowhere and you're wasting your time after it's been a part of your life for so long. But this is one of those times, I'm afraid.
You say you enjoy being single so run with that. He'll always be there but I would advise you to cut all ties. These kinds of casual relationships continue to come up and ruin other relationships you have if you allow them to continue. He had a new girlfriend but continued to sleep with you: neither of you can move on while this is hanging over you.
I know you love him but you don't need this stress and trauma in your life. He doesn't sound like a great person or someone who would make a good long term boyfriend so I think it's time you spent some time on your own, got yourself together and realised there's more to life than hanging onto some loser from your past who's dragging you down.
Good luck and I hope you make the right decision.
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