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writes:Hello,I would like to ask the about how does a man, know when a gay guy or bi,is hitting on you, I met this guy at a store the other night, we talked for about fifteen minutes, he really turned me on, he even touched me, am straight, but am bi curious, he even told me he was going to be by himself on Thanksgiving, now I wish I would of ask him if I could of came over for Thanksgiving, he was smiling the whole time, he mentioned he had a girlfriend in another town, I wanted to ask him if he wanted to have sex, I wonder if he is just like me, he was so friendly, I've been fantasizing about kissing him, hope I meet him again, so if I do meet him again,should I ask him for his number, should I ask him if I can come over to his house, he told me where he lives, would a straight guy, touch you, tell you where he lives, tell you that he was going to be all by him self, and look at you like he wants to, you know, will appreciate any advice,thanks
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 November 2017):
 If he mentioned a girlfriend, then he wasnt hitting on you. Maybe an innocent flirt, but read the message: when someone wants to hook up, they will NOT bring up the girlfriend /boyfriend....
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2017): How old do you think this guy is? You're in a local store and a regular customer; so he may feel comfortable about telling you he lives somewhere in your locality. If he didn't give you his actual street address and didn't offer his number, I think you better pull back on the reigns cowboy!
Straight-guys aren't touchy as a rule. You might be getting ahead of yourself offering invitations to your house.
Didn't he tell you he had a girlfriend? So don't ask!
Don't let your imagination get the better of you. If he's much younger; you might be getting crossed-signals. He most likely thinks you're gay; if you're coming across as overly-friendly. He might be humoring an older-guy, that doesn't mean he's gay or interested. He likes the fact you seem to think he's attractive. Straight-guys are flattered by the attention, as you are. It doesn't mean they want sex.
For someone who says he's straight, you have a vividly gay imagination!
I am gay! I would not walk-up to some guy and just ask him if he wanted to have sex; while he's at the store-counter working, dear sir! There's an epidemic of complaints about inappropriate sexual-behavior in the news these days! I caution you, if you want to remain in good-standing in your community. Hitting on random guys you only suspect to be gay is not a good idea in the present predatory-atmosphere these days!
Nor is it a good idea asking guys you don't know to come to your house with the intent of seducing them when you don't know if they're gay, bisexual, or what their orientation or intentions are.
Older gay-men get robbed a lot. They invite random men over, and come home to find everything of any value gone.
Try visiting your local gay bar and just chit-chat with a few fellows. You don't have to guess their orientation and if they're interested, they'll let you know. Try a coffee-date or meeting someplace publicly, get to know them, and let nature take its course. These are not times for guessing games, or making blatant passes when you're not sure who you're dealing with or how they're taking your advances.
If you're married, get a grip on yourself. Bi-curiosity kills the cat, and most certainly is grounds for divorce.
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