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*aria.niz
writes:Hey there,my boyfriend broke up with me one month ago, leaving me here to spend the whole summer alone or - even worse - with my parents. Now, here's the situation: this October I'm gonna start university, and - as many friends of mine told me - I am hopefully gonna find other guys who will ask me out. My question is: how do you know that you are over your ex? I mean, I wasn't over my past ex until I found my recently ex. Above all, I am scared of jumping into another relationship too quickly, 'cause I don't wanna cause another broken heart, I had already mine and I know it's not nice, at all. At the same time, I don't want to be too critical with other guys, or spending my time in my sorrow and never go out from it. So, have you got any advice? How do you know that you're over someone? And how you understand that a guy/girl is good for you, and you're not just pretending he/she is, just to be with someone?Thanks a lot, hope to have explained my situation. ^^
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 August 2013):
 I realized yesterday that I am over my ex husbands... how do i know this? I have NO feelings about any of them.
not love
not fear
not hate
nothing...
i feel that I want them to be happy and healthy and whole but I have NO NEED of any contact or information about any of them.
SageOldGuy is right... when you no longer CARE one way or the other... that's when you are truly over the relationship.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 August 2013):
 This is an interesting question to which I offer this rather-cliche "answer"....
The opposite of LOVE is NOT "hate".... it is "indifference"
When you (finally) feel "indifferent" about this boyfriend that you broke up with.... THEN you will really be "over" him.....
Good luck...
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reader, kenny  +, writes (15 August 2013):
 Depending on how long the pair of you were together and how serious the relationship was, maybe a month, maybe two to be completely free of your previous relationship. Of course no two situations are the same and everyone heals or gets over things at different times. Its how you feel in yourself really, if you feel that you can enter into a new relationship with out carrying feeling from a previous relationship than i would cartainly say that you are ready. You are young, your just starting Uni, live it up, have fun, be joyous and have fun with your mates. Don't be in to much of a rush to meet someone, invarible we meet out potential parners when we very least expect it.
Good luck x
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