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writes: O.k, lets define what a doormat means.A 'Doormat' is where people wipe their feet before entering a house, so someone who is called a 'doormat' is someone who gets 'stepped on' or abused by other people.or A weak individual who is regularly abused by others.have you ever felt that way? Most people do especially when they thought they are in love.How about a Dream Girl?A dream girl is the girl you wanna spend the rest of your life with. shes super beautiful and sweet. when ever your around her you get butterflies and wanna hold her so close to you and just listen to her heart beat sync with yours. this girl you will grow to love almost instantly.In short, the girl you would give up being a player and put that ring on her finger.So what are you?A Doormat or a Dream Girl?"Signs that you are a Doormat"1. If you find yourself waiting for your date, bf or husband for an hour or so. Your a Doormat. Otherwise it wont happen2. If you find yourself constantly wondering where you place in your someone special's life or bf's life, your a Doormat. 3. If you find yourself initiating to make a call or text your bf most times, your a doormat. 4. If you find yourself accepting alibis from your bf why he cancel your dates, you are a doormat.5. If you find yourself having sex with someone who can't commit to you or a married man You are a Doormat.6. If you are verbally or physically abused by your bf or husband, you are a doormat.7. If you find yourself crying everyday because of the stress from your bf or husband, YOU ARE A DOORMAT.8. If you find yourself paying for your own meals on a date, YOU are a doormat.9. If you find yourself supporting your bf or husband financial needs, like paying for his rent,credit card bills, phone bills shopping clothes for him, etc, YOU are a Doormat.10. Anything that makes you No.1 or No.2 in your bf's or husband's life MAKES YOU A DOORMAT. why? Because a DREAM GIRL IS THE ONLY CHOICE.Don't be happy if your number 1 because it only means there's no.2 and so on and so forth.How to be a Dream Girl?Rule No1.Learn from jerks and players.I studied and analyzed men. Especially the player one's. This is what I found out. They collect and collect girls. they don't concentrate on one girl. That's the reason why they don't fall in love.Rule No2.Collect and Collect. Then Select the BEST. because if you would concentrate on one person the tendency is you would think about him most of the times, and because your thinking too much, you develop the mind set that you want HIM ALONE. Bad Move.Rule No3. Never Assume Anything.O.k, say the date last night was fantastic. Maybe for you but what about from your date's point of view? Did he feel the same way? Are you sure? He isn't calling you or texting you after the fantastic date you thought YOU HAD with him. A week had passed no words from him. unless you initiate contact Believe me, HE'S NOT INTO YOU.You are into him, but NOT HIM INTO YOU. Repeat that to yourself again and again and again. Shame on you for thinking he likes you the way you like him. Wanna be a dream girl?then follow rule No.3 NEVER ASSUME ANYTHING.Because A guy who REALLY likes you will CALL YOU FIRST.Rule No4.DON'T INITIATE CONTACT.Make him get your number and call you.Never ever initiate making a call or even a plain text. because once you do, it will become a bad habit.I tried it myself. believe me, I have never ever initiate calling a bf, a potential bf, a suitor or a date, whatever.I learned it from Sherry Argov and Greg Behrendt. If hE's not calling you, Because you are not on his mind, therefore, HE'S JUST NOT INTO YOU.It made those guy's minds crazy. I swear. it works.the good thing is I always make my exit graceful. why? because I was never a DOORMAT. Never Ever.Rule no5.Be productive.get a job or something to be busy with. create a hobby that will make you happy. Life is not all about love life. If you want something, Make it Happen. Work for it. if you're crazy in love with someone but the feeling is not mutual, instead of making yourself crazy. Make yourself productive. Its very effective for me.i rejected someone I really super like. maybe I was wrong, for he never put me in a wonder land situation yet, during the get to know each other phase. I push him to his limit. Until it made him give up. I cannot change what I have done. I am too proud to correct the mistake. So I have to let go. To get over it, I spent extra hours at work, I made myself busy going out with friends, I made myself believe that i really don't need him. I have my own selection of break up and letting go songs. I played it over and over until I finally believe myself that I'm over it. It helps. I am over it. Sometimes my ex would say hi like playing with my feelings. But his magic no longer works on me. When he say Hi, how are you. I got nerve to say, I'm fine and busy. I wont even bother to ask him how is he?Rule No6Prettify yourself.Never underestimate the power of your beauty.Men in general are visual. They can't help getting what is lovely.Work on that.if hair is the problem- get a new hairstyle and color.if body shape is not to die for. work hard for it.eat a balance diet. Exercise.Try a new Make up color. Update your wardrobe.Get that killer shoes.No money? Follow rule number 5. get a job. work extra hours at work. If you wanna be a dream Girl. You should have the attitude. The attitude and the looks should go together. One will not work without the other.Its workable and its fun.Its not superficial. it gives you confidence, it makes you healthy, it will make you feel good about yourself. So take care of your self. Love your self. Rule No7Have fun.Laughter is the best medicine of all time.Don't forget to have fun, To Enjoy life. Rule No8Never settle for lessA Dream Girl will never find herself being no2 or no1.she is the girl you would give up being a player and put that ring on her finger. I believe that every players does have one match.I met him 2 years ago. Lets just call him Andy. Andy is a jeweller, rich and handsome. He tried to lure me with his looks and money. Offered to travel together around the globe. For fun. The nerve. luckily at that time, I was still hung up on my ex bf. So I ended up rejecting him. I really got turned off romantically. But we did click as friends.Then one day he called and said he's getting married. i cannot believe it. I said I'm happy for him and congratulated him. So i asked him. Who is this lucky girl that tamed him? and what did she do to tame him? i was puzzled. Andy is like a case of no more cure type of a player.Then he said. i met her at the right time. she made me wait for her, no one do that to me. She always put my feet on the ground. I am always sure about myself. but with her, Its like I'm no longer sure. I gotta have her. so i asked her to marry me. Then I said, ah ok. got it. But I'm so happy for you. finally, you deserve it. Rule No9Follow rules no1 to 8We need to believe in our self. If we will do the right thing, we will never find our self in a no win situation.where in you find yourself dating someone you don't like or dating someone who treats you like a doormat.If we believe in our self and never scared of letting go, we will find the one were really looking for.Sometimes, letting go is a must, for you to find what's right for you. It takes a lot of courage to be that Dream Girl.but its so easy to be a doormat. Certainly I don't wanna be a doormat. Never Ever. Say that to your self too.I will never be a Doormat. I got Nerve to be That Dream Girl.Thank you so much for reading my article. (I dedicate this for one of the question ask er)This is my promise for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi anonymous reader,
first of all I want you to know that I am very happy to know that you find my article helpful, although I can't really say its perfect. But Thank you for saying so. It means a LOT to me. Whoever you are, Again, Thank u so much.
About your concern, his taking you for granted and you know it. In addition a friend of yours saw him flirting with someone somewhere. You still feel desperate for his attention. Despite of the situation. I can say that your really in Love with him. Head over Heels.
Where do you go from here?
Well, no one can really stop you. No matter what I say, if you still feel love for him then So BE it. Just Accept the fact that your so IN LOVE with him.
Then ask yourself. How can I fix the situation? Is it something i can fix? if I talk to him, Will it change the situation? Is it possible that His just busy that's why he can't call me? Is my friend just lying to me when she said she saw him flirting with someone else? Or is it wise to think that the reason why his taking me for granted because he found someone else?
In your heart, you know the answer. right?
If I were in your shoes. I will do the right thing.
What right thing I am talking about?
1. I will not call him
2. I will not beg for his attention
3. I will not bother to ask him for some obvious answer/reason why he changed or lose time for me.
4. I will just leave him alone
5. I will have a great time
6. I will date other people
7. I will try my very best NOT to think about him
8. I will try my best to ignore him
When you do, you will feel great afterwards. why? because it will make him wonder what went wrong. There's nothing more satisfying than leaving a jerk wondering why their magic didn't work.
But the question is, can you do it?
Can you afford to lose him?
because that move has two results
It might TOTALLY make or break the two of you.
Lastly, Its really hard to follow the rules above.
I have lost the people I used to care about because of my rules. Experienced was the best teacher who have taught me to be strong, to fight my emotions, to ignore my feelings.
You have no idea, how much it hurts too. But this is a choice of mine. You have to make your own choice too.
My article is just a guideline.
But the decision is still yours to make.
I am here to help you. Kindly try to read my other article about forgetting someone when your ready to leave him.
Pray and I wish you luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2013): Highmaintainance, what a perfect article you have.
If all girl's will follow the rules from this article, there would be no room for a third party. You set a very high standard to follow for yourself. Its hard not to initiate contact with my boyfriend. But you have a point. He is taking me for granted and were like in our third week as a couple. I hate to admit this but based on your article, I am a doormat and its making me cry. I waited for him to call me or text me but he didn't. I found out from a common friend that she saw him flirting with someone somewhere. Tell me where do I start from here? right now i feel ugly and desperate. I just dont know why its happening to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much.
Whenever I write always based it on my own experience because
that's the only way for me to write something useful and real.
Letting Go is hard especially when we THOUGHT what we have in front of us is the BEST. but how could it be BEST? if its making you wonder, cry, emotionally unstable, and writing here questioning the man you thought the BEST?
I am so glad that my article help you.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): Hey
I just read your article..i actually agree with 100 percent of everything that you have covered in your article..iam going to share it with my girlfriends..
It rings so true...and the distinction between a doormat or a dream girl...well i was a doormat, waiting for a man to come around who never did not so long ago...so i let go of him and made a graceful exit, ..and now iam just focusing on myself.. it hurt so much but your correct,at the end letting go is the only way you can find the one that truely deserves you
I was so blinded by love for him, yet he fed me lines and i waited like a looser..i know iam a dream girl,..not someones doormat..thankyou for writing your beatutiful article :)
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