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writes:I would really like to share my story here and get the honest opinions of other people. Thank you all so much.How do you know if you're a rebound?I am 20 and my boyfriend is 23. We have been together for a little over 6 months. When I first met this guy, he was absolutely amazing. He was so open and honest with me about everything, literally talked to me all of the time, made so much effort to hang out or to talk with me, called me every afternoon on his lunch break at work, he seemed like he liked and cared about me so much, these are all of the reasons I fell in love with him.This all lasted for a while and now lately, he hasn't been acting this way anymore. He's become distant, doesn't really act like he wants to talk much anymore, Tells me he will call and never does, sometimes it goes like 3-4 days without us talking much at all. When we do talk, he does tell me he loves me and is nice to me, he's just not really the same anymore, sort of like he has changed. I miss the old him.Reason why I think I might be a rebound is he was still hurt about his ex girlfriend when me and him got together (they were broken up a year before he and I started dating). One day I just told him that I was not okay with how much contact he still had with her and he swore up and down that he was over her and that he was just still hurt about what she did to him. I unfortunately don't know if he still talks to her or not because I no longer bother him about how I feel about it. I do however know of a couple of times when she tried to contact him. Not really much more I can do about it. My boyfriend has admitted to me that he got a rebound girlfriend right after this ex broke up with him...and their relationship had ended just a few months before he met me.Sorry if I come off as over-reacting, it's just I really care about this guy and I would be devastated if I found out I'm a rebound to him, but it's honestly how I feel. I've always thought of him as an honest and good person. Does this sound like a rebound to you? or maybe more along the lines of he's losing interest in me?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (2 January 2014):
 If you feel like a rebound then you are one doesn't matter whether it's really true or not..it's how you feel that makes it real.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2014): It's hard to say without knowing all the details, but sounds like a relationship that just killed me two weeks ago. If he ran straight into the relationship before yours immediately after the split with the ex and then to you and the first ex continues to contact him you sound like you were a rebound. I'm sorry, but if he was reluctant to stop contact with the ex that probably meant he still had feelings for her. My ex was crapped on by her ex just before we got together and he kept sending her little messages and emails. She refused to tell him to stop bc she liked the attention. This continued for our entire 4 yr relationship!!
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