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writes:Hey i am about to have sex for the first time with my longterm boyfriend, but we have never engaged in any sexual acts before other than kissing. my question is how do you have sex? as in what do i do as he is inside me, writhe around? roll over? bounce up and down? please help as i am so confused as noone says it specifically enough and i have only what i see in hollywood movies to go on. ps please dont advise me to watch pornthanks x
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reader, oldfool  +, writes (6 May 2008):
 Do what you feel like. Actually, the first time may be nothing to write home about. It might hurt, or it might just feel curious. The first time I had sex I was just thinking, "Wow, this is what it feels like inside a girl -- so warm and soft and wet!" That was it.
As time goes on, if it feels good, your body may start writhing around of its own accord. But don't do anything you don't feel. One thing that is nice is to touch or hold the other person as you connect with them. You'll probably feel like doing that anyway, so you don't need me to tell you that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): A few things:
1)Buy a copy of the book 'The Joy of Sex', it will explain everything.
2)Buy a copy of the Karma Sutra, it will give you a century of sex ideas to work with.
3)Start watching a porn tape or two. Get some fantasy ideas from those, there is nothing wrong with a little fantasy.
4)Start masturbating. Its the safest and easiest way to figure out what pushes your buttons sexually.
and finally...
5)It's not a Space-Shuttle launch, it's sex. Just go with the flow and it will happen when it happens.
Flynn 24
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): Porn is not the answer it makes everyhting a fantasy and almost none of the feelings are true. When you have sex all you really do is go with the flow. Tell him what feels good and listen to what feels good to him . . .as for when he's inside you jsut enjoy it. If you are all worried about what to do then you'll be thinking about that and not enjoying it.IF it feels better if you bounce or anyhting liek that then do it but don't do anything that feels unconfortable. ok?
I hope this helped :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): The first time I asked my mother, "when should I have sex?" she gave me the best answer possible. She said "when kissing and cuddling is not enough".
Please keep this in mind, rather than the techniques of sex, or what you may have seen or been told.I have kept my mothers words of advice close to my heart, and enter sexual relationships keeping her words as a guiding mantra
It's never about what I should do (look sexy, writhe around, roll over, bounce up and down or touch the roof.) Rather I lose myself in the sensations of his touch.
Dose his touch feel pleasant or unpleasant, do I want to go faster or slower, do I want a gentle touch or a bit of roughness. I find if I concentrate solely on my pleasure, my partner will follow my lead and ask for what he wants. (Touch me softer, harder, talk dirty in my ears. etc)
Sex, I believe is about sensations, feelings and intimacy. Close the bedroom door, ignore what you think you should do, and do what you want.
AND ABOVE ALL HAVE FUN!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): i had the same problem once
and you know what i was told
dont worry when it happens you will just go with the flow, and its actally true
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