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writes: hey i know some girls find me attractive but i find conversation really hard with most girls once u have gone through where u work? what u been doing? how are you? i cant seem to think of anything interresting to say and i dont think im ever going to have a relationship if i stay like this any help? Reply to this Question
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reader, Phoenix_Of_Fire +, writes (15 April 2006):
 Try talking about interests and hobbies as i find thats a great topic to get going when talking with boys so i think it would probably be the same backwards... Remember if she looks bored ask her an open question about herself (What do you like to do at weekends?)and if she looks uncomfortable break the ice by making her laugh. Tell a joke or something as girls love a boy with a sense of humour but most of all BE YOURSELF or you wont get anyware. And dont lie or it'll just come back to you. Hope this has helped xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): try to tell her about u and dont let her atention drop no silences
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (13 April 2006):
 Relax, how about they're interests? Maybe you could flirt a little? Pay them small compliments? Do you like these / this girl(s)? There are a lot of un-answered questions! These / this girl(s) are probably just as shy as you are! be gentle and be brave! Trust in yourself. Us girls can sense fear!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): Well I think first and foremost, what type of women are you meeting? Are they just ones you pick off the street, or are they actually people you're geniunly (sp?) interested in? It's one thing to say "Hey she's hot, I'll go for her" and another to say "Hey she's pretty interesting. I think I'll try to get to know her better".
Also, this is a big factor to 'most' women - how to groom yourself and dress yourself? Do you 'fit' into your clothes - as in style, size, and does your dress style fit your talk/expressive style? Just because you wear the latest in fashion, doesn't mean you talk or act the same way, and vice versa.
Another thing is when you talk, do you talk with confidence, or do you talk as if you're talking to a female for the first time? Mind you, this also depends on the girl. If she is the type that is attracted to confident witty men, then you must express that. Of course, if you're not a confident person in the first place, then this won't work.
It's all about chemistry. Don't need the so-called fabled 'spark' really. What you need is the right ingredients. This is a big topic! 8/
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reader, bob hawkins +, writes (13 April 2006):
bob hawkins is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok i guess that helps me a bit but if theres any more help u can give me plz message me this is really buming me out have lost too possible girls so far becuase i dont talk that much :(
thanks for the help so far
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2006): Usually, I never ask where they work, nor "how are you" and "what u've been doing"... Hahahaha... I feel those sort of questions are quite dead-end.
I ask them questions, get a feel what they like by how they react, 'test' their tastes - drinks, food, way they act/react, the way they move, dress, how they look at things, how they think - the things are endless. Then from what I gather, I adjust the way I talk and what I talk about based on those things. Of course, to keep myself a part of the chatter, I also add my tidbits in here and there.
Asking questions are good a thing - eg: "This place has a very chilled-out atmosphere. I especially like so and so. How about you?"
Mind you though, the type of women I go for are usually talkative, or at least, they have an interest in a wide range of things, and aren't afraid of trying new things out as well. For those that are either not quite talkative, or are too shallow, or those who just bore the nuts out of me, I try ending anything sooner the better.
Un m un ah? 8]
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