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writes:how do u get over someone who u liked for 3yrs more than life? Someone who rejected you in a extremely nice way but u can't get over it. Someone who comes in ur dreams every nite? Someone pictures u luk at every nite. Someone u wish u saw everday and she said she loved me. How do u stop this feelin in ur stomach brain and heart???.... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2008): i have no earthly idea.the only thing i can remotely believe will help is prayer.and time...
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reader, Arcada +, writes (1 June 2008):
I'm so sorry for your pain. If I could I would give you a big hug!
The advice that you have been given is brilliant! I think you need to delete this girl from your mind, and looking at photos isn't going to do you any good!
You will be ok, you will meet someone else and fall in love. Believe me, I was devestated when my ex dumped me.
Remember that you are the master of your future!As the old saying goes, chin up, love yourself and dont take things too seriously.
Message me anytime!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): everything said on here is completely true. I spent 2 years trying to get over a boyfriend then he got in touch and we talked about starting something, few days after he never got in touch and I feel like a complete fool for allowing myself to be drawn back in. He completely used me yet again, but you know what we are so much stronger becuase of them. Im not going to lie its going to hurt a whole load and will take a lot of time. You will get there though and I pray you dont make the same mistake as me and end up back at square one. Your lucky u were rejected in a nice way so when you do see her you wont have the problem of attraction and love versus hate. When you dont immeditely find someone new dont worry, it might take awhile but there will be someone else down the road. What i tend to do is focus on the things Im incredibly thankful for, say days spent with family and good friends, a night out or an amazing holiday. Time will pass before your eyes and it will hurt a little bit less everyday without you even knowing it. I think it helps to know there are others out there in the same situation though and not everyone else around you is blissfully happy in their perfect relationships.Best of luck to you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): Hi, I'm a 38 yr old woman wishing you luck. I don't know how time helps as I never quite got over my ex-boyfriend when he suddenly no longer kept in contact in 1987 ( we were long distance ). I tried my hardest and found someone I later married. He got back in touch in 2002 and we decided to get back together but we found we couldn't leave our families. Nearly 6 years later and I am still not over someone I fell in love with almost 22 years ago. Most days it isn't as bad as it used to be but the pain is still there x.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Ive been there and in my case it didnt work out, and i was hurt for a while and i wont lie its not easy at all its very hard at times.
It may seem like a bad answer but time is the only real cure here, theres no fixed time it will take but you will get over it eventually.
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reader, bobbay123 +, writes (1 June 2008):
Dude, I've suffered the exact same feelings.
It's unrequited love, and it hurts.... Bad!
Sometimes, as hard as it is to accept - you have to let go of them.
I did, and finally I realised her game. She wanted me back, I realised she had lead me on but softly denied me the entire time because she enjoyed the attention. I didnt go back. It was something I couldnt do. I'd gotten over her and I would never go back. I'm glad I did that.
It's really hard to post something of such a painful subject, and then everyone's reply is not what you wanna hear.
You wanna hear someone who has the skills of Hitch or Cupid who can tell you what to do/say and you'll finally have her.
It doesnt work like that, time after time you'll see people suggest you move on.
It's not that you cant, it's that you dont want to.
But it seems like you cant.
I have a feeling this will all blow past you, if it doesnt, post back and hopefully you'll get some help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): im going through da same thing,but i was in a relationship with my boyfriend for 6 yrs and now he has turned his back on me,i been having sleepless nights because i keep thinking bout our time together and where it all to started go wrong.how do i move on and forget about him.
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reader, Queeny  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Yes as all are advicing its true. i too have broken up with my bf and wat i'm trying to do is take each day at a time and accepting the fate. wat is helping me right now is not kidding myself that its not over and being very composed about it. once you accept, it'll be easier coz you let go, it will feel like a load tht has been taken away. if you were together you'd still be hurting even worse because she does not have the same kind of feelings you have for her. it is better you put away anything that reminds you of her like gifts, photos, text messages, emails until you recover. wat they will do is just remind you of her. smthin funny, we usually remember the good times only that's why it hurts so much. thank God she was very mature about it and told you the truth instead of pretending.
every new day, will be a step of healing. i have managed new days and even tho its the first thing i think of in the morning, i knw eventually i will get used to it and my heart and mind will get tired of lingering in the past. this again as lotus mama says will only happen when you allow time to heal you.
try to be away from her but do not ressist too much get used to seeing her and in time she'll jus be an ordinary person. my ex-bf comes over @ our apartments to see his friends and even tho it's very akward to seeing him, it helps gettin over it.
Please accept that she is gone and let go for your own good. i believe if you loose something you loved, you will get something better bcoz you were genuine. you are not the one who left she decided to decline ur love.. you did your best atleast...
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (1 June 2008):
 I'm not going to lie to you -- relationships are powerful things. When things are great, they're SUPER GREAT... and of course the opposite is just as true. One think that helps you move on would be to stop forcing yourself to have her in mind... in other words, stop sorrowfully looking at her pictures. That might also stop your distressing dreams.
Have no worries -- you will get over it. Just as lotus_mama808 said, time will heal your pain.
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reader, mimisoph3 +, writes (1 June 2008):
 sometimes in life someone u love you have to give it up because it isnt meant to be but if she comes back it means that it is meant to be
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reader, lotus mama808 +, writes (1 June 2008):
 Time and distraction. Keep yourself busy with things that dont remind you of her, and remember that time is our greatest healer. If you love someone, let them go, if she comes back, it was meant to be. Serious stuff! I'm sorry you are hurting. It will get better, I promise:)
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