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male
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:How do you get more confident around girls for dating? I am 17 and pretty much never had a girlfriend, i get along well with a lot of girls, i can talk to them about anything, but i can never ask them out as i just dont have the confidence to. I am athletic i do lots of sports and i have been doing ice skating lessons for the past 8 years and i get along really well with all the girls there (im the only boy :L ) and i have friends who are girls who i get along with really well but they are in a relationship.. I dont want to sound like i am showing off but due to all the sports training i do i am athletic and have been told by many girls that i have a very nice body and asked by many to take my shirt off. I just have no clue how to react in these circumstances so how would you react. (Its in a public place btw ;) ) I am bit of a nerd tbh, with getting 100% in physics and maths exams but i dont think i act nerdy. I dont really do much for my appearance, i have been called 'really cute' before by girls but i dont know what i should say next, and what they mean by it.I have been approached by quite a lot of boys (some of whom i didnt know were gay) asking if i want to go out with them, or just want a general bit of 'fun' but so far, pretty much no girls :/Any help would be really appreciated about how to react in those circumstances and how to get confidence up.
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reader, followtheblackrabbit  +, writes (8 October 2010):
 If a girl you think is cute asks you to take your shirt off, tease a little and say something like: "If you wanna see the goods, ya gotta take me out to dinner first" or "I only take off my shirt on the third date-take me out on one and two and I promise I won't dissapoint!" Sometimes, the clothes we wear affect our confidence directly. Wear things you KNOW you look good in. A shirt that shows off muscle, cool belt, etc. But asking a girl out isn't so hard. Smile at her and ask her if she'd like to catch a movie sometime. One way someone asked me: Hey *name* do you eat? Me: Um yeah, of course I eat. Him: think you'd like to eat with me Friday night? Me: what would we eat? Him: Sushi? But if you prefer, I'll offer myself!" lol a bit cheesy, but I thought it was cute :p But, just be yourself and relax. If a girl says no, her loss. If she says yes, her gain. Keep telling yourself that you are smart, cute, and talented and it will sink in eventually. Value yourself and you will be valued!
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