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writes:How do you get a guy to text you again? I miss him and I want to talk to him. I used to be able to tell him everything that was bothering me but now he doesn't talk to me. I'm being set up with this guy I don't know? I want to cry because I love my friend Rob but if he doesn't like me why should I try? I don't know how he feels but I know that I'm bothered by him and I can't stop thinking about him. Even if i block him out of my life then I would still think about the good times we spent together and cry.Rob has been close to me since September but he stopped in April. I've tried texting him how I feel but I get no response all the time. How am I supposed to tell him that he's hurt me and ask him why he's not talking to me if he doesn't respond? I know that I need to let him go but it's hard. Maybe when I get the job I applied for I'll be too busy to care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): It's hard to say what is going on here. Has something happened between you? Is there a reason why he has stopped contacting you?
Unfortunately, you can't make him reply to you. The fact that he is ignoring you suggests that he isn't really bothered about your feelings. So if he isn't bothered about you, why should you be so bothered about him? Do you really want a guy who ignores you, doesn't reply to you, cuts you out of his life? Don't you deserve more than that?
I suppose you could try sending him a message, or maybe a letter or something, and say exactly how you feel and what you want from him. Then see what he does. But if he doesn't respond, then there isn't much you can do but move on.
I know it is hard, but you are not alone. There are lots of women out there just like you who are in pain over a guy's behaviour, and are trying to move on. It isn't easy. But it can be done. Try and stop going over all of the good times you had, as this will certainly make you feel worse. Instead, think about how upset you are right now. Is he really such a nice guy if he is causing you so much pain?
If he has moved on, then why should you waste any more energy on him? Why aren't you allowed to move on too? He is carrying on with his life, and you have to be stuck in the same spot? Why? How is that fair?
I know this must be really painful for you right now, but I think you need to try and be strong. With time, things will seem better, even if that doesn't seem possible right now. Take care of yourself. x
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