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writes:I like this guy a lot, but i know he doesn't like me. I need to forget about him, but i don't know how...anyone know how to forget about someone?It hurts so much to think about him, and I've literally been up crying at night. I remember just about evry single thing he's ever said to me, and just about all the fun we've had. Does anyone know how to forget, how to get the memories out of my head? Reply to this Question
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reader, banjopicker +, writes (9 September 2010):
I know it hurts a lot but time will heal. It's ok to have memories of the good things. Best advice I have is stay busy. Engulf yourself in schoolwork and other activities with friends and family. Try to avoid him until you can face him without falling apart. Get involved with all of your friends and as many other activities as you can. Don't do things that remind you of him, like listen to "your song". Change your routine. Do things that make you happy. Hang out with happy people. The less you dwell on it the faster you can move on. Keep an open mind that someone better will come along.
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reader, crazy curls  +, writes (9 September 2010):
I was in love with a guy for 6 years. He was friendly, he liked me but never proposed. I was so sure that he was the one for me that I could not stop loving/waiting for him.
One day I woke up to realize I was wasting my life on him and in the process preventing any other guy from getting close to me. I was lonely & unhappy and realized that for my sanity, I HAD to get over him. I started by throwing out every memorabilia associated with him. I didn't try to check my grief and stopped forcing myself to forget him. In gist I made him any other ordinary person of my acquaintance.
I invested in myself, made time for all my little hobbies and read a lot. In time I did get over him !
Dont force yourself to forget him, just dont give him any conscious thought.
I am giving a really trite advice, but it really works : Time does heal.
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reader, CharmedCupid  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 My dear,I am sorry to say,forgetting a person like that is........impossible,unless you moved far away and had no :')contact with him at all.....But I am afraid to say,forgetting him is impossble,but the good side is,you don't have to forget about him,you can just move on :') It won't take the pain away,but it will help you to stop crying as much,give you something or someone else to look forward to and you'll be too occupied to think about him :))
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (9 September 2010):
I wish i did know how to forget someone. Eventually in time the hurt will ease. Keeping busy and meeting someone new also helps alot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): but he hasnt actually told ME that. ive heard it from like 2 people though
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reader, roysten  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Dont try to block the thoughts out, instead get busy getting on with fun things in your life.
Do you have a hobby, swimming, tennis, soccer , movies , reading ... any thing like this will help! You can focus your energy into sport or music and make something beautiful out of it instead. Its not your fault he doesn't like you, there is nothing wrong with you :) There will be plently of people you don't know that will like you and you wont like them back! Thats all part of the fun.
If you're just sick of thinking of it ( I've been there ;P) go for a walk into a new part of town. When you see new things it reminds you how crazy and amazing life is, there will be Soooooooooooo many other boys.. the important thing is that YOU grow from your emotions and dont feel burnt.
Rejection stings right... but I frimly believ you learn the most when things DONT go your way, its a chance to grow.
It's healthy to accept your feelings and move on up, if its going to work out then it will :)
Good Luck!
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (9 September 2010):
 My rule is that if I like a guy and they end up not liking me....I basically remind myself that I deserve a guy who likes me back. Why waste your emotions anymore on someone who has told you that they're not into you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2010): Everyone gets their heart broken, sadly. The best way to get over this is to realise that one day you will meet another guy who likes you just as much, if not more than you like him and you will be very happy. For now, you need to keep busy, go out with friends, take up new hobbies, anything to occupy your mind. I know it's hardest at night when you go to bed, so by being very busy during the day you won't have time to think about him and will be so tired that you'll just fall asleep as soon as your head hits the pillow. It may not feel like you will ever get over it now, but trust me in time you will. It's his loss not yours. Keep your chin up hun. Good luck.
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