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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:So I have a major thing for this Scottish guy I recently met, who just moved down to England from Glasgow. :P He's stunningly cute, and very, very intelligent and passionate about what he does (he's an engineer, and my firm is paying for employee "training events" that his company also attends for the next 6 months, so I get to see him every few weeks or so). When he "opens up" to me, we get along like a house on fire. I just feel like I "get" him and he "gets" me. I'm 20 and he's 25.Thing is, though, he's quite stoic/impassive/unemotional at times, and a bit rude (in the sense of being uber pragmatic and down-to-earth, so he won't even do things like make small talk or respond to people sometimes but just rushes around in a hurry). He's also a bit grumpy/pessimistic, and I am naturally a positive person so when he takes it OTT I find it depressing to be around him. I'm not offended by it, but, being the sort of person who's very extroverted (if not emotional), it's sometimes impossible to get through to him when he's in "introvert mode." He won't even make small talk (other people have pointed this out behind his back too). He is ridiculously into his work, which I admire, but he seems almost asexual and I'm not sure how he'd respond if I hit on him. Workplace rules and personal ethics being what they are, I'm not sure if I should hit on him till our firms stop hosting events together; but I was considering getting to know him better and then asking him out for a drink or something once that time is up. However, I'm not sure if he would respond to someone who's his complete opposite in a lot of ways (very sociable, positive, outgoing, touchy-feely, loves other people) hitting on him, or how best I should go about it.Thanks :D
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reader, Sweet Dreamer xxx +, writes (28 August 2014):
 Opposites attract! Never forget that. I would say go for it and ask him out, what have you got to lose? It could be that he likes you and is just worried about asking you out? Or it could be like you said, he is too into his work to worry about relationships.Please don't let this stop you from asking, the worse he can do is say no, and by this point all you have to do is brush it off and get on with life again. I'd suggest trying to chat to him about his job, show that your interested, he might not enjoy small talk but if he loves his job that much then he won't mind. I'd ask him for a coffee or invite him out for drinks after work (if you go out with colleagues). Good Luck
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