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writes:I'm 27 and haven't been in a relationship. Although, I'm average looking enough that I probably could be if I wanted to. But more and more people around will tell me to get into a relationship: my parents, my siblings, and my friends.I don't remember feeling any similar pressure since my teenage years with other guys showing off that they could date girls and looking down on guys not going for it.How do you usually deal with this pressure? or people not really valuing your accomplishments because as long as you are not in a serious relationship they look at you as something incomplete.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 October 2015): Maybe you are fussy, this is positive.You should not live your life for 'social' fitting in, why on earth do you want to be a 'Sheeple'? If we follow all social expectations, wouldn't life be dull and wouldn't we be like robots.Be happy with your own 'Time' not man made time, you will meet somebody at the time that is right for 'Both'of you.Some people view the single life as a great opportunity do be a free spirit, untied from family commitment, and financial commitment, and work burdens. Make the most of your time been a free spirit, and do things that one day you may not be free to do.Regarding valuing your accomplishments, do this for yourself, you don't need to live your life for 'Votes' and approval.Have fun and don't get trapped amongst the sheeple.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (27 October 2015):
Good sir,
My advise to you...do not rush to get into a relationship because of what people say or think. They are not you.
Look around this site...Look around everywhere you go. Lots of people are on this site trying to get help with their relationship. I am sure you have had friends who are or were upset because they broke up with their partner. You see the trouble they are having dealing with some of these issues. So my question is...Why are you in a rush to add more trouble to your life???
Don't get me wrong...I am not saying never to date, or fall in love and get married (Because women are awesome :)) )...All I am asking you to do is take your time. You maybe one of the lucky ones who meet the right girl the first time, and get married and have a great life, rather than hopping from one woman to the other.
It's not how many women you can date...It's how many date you can have with the same woman...because she is the love of your life. :)))
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (27 October 2015):
There’s no easy answer. Everyone seems to have an opinion and it can get extremely irritating I’m sure. What I would say is that if you show indifference to it, they’ll soon get bored of repeating the same nonsense over and over. I would simply say something like this: “I’m sure I will when the right person comes along but I’m quite happy as I am for now thanks.” I would then not react to any further comments and the subject will soon change. The most important thing is how you feel: others will criticise what they don’t understand, because that’s what people do. But, if you’re not looking for a relationship and it’s not bothering you, and if you are reasonably confident talking to girls, I think smiling politely and saying as little as you can will serve as a good response.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (27 October 2015):
 If you aren't into dating then you aren't into it. You shouldn't have to fake emotions to satisfy your family.
Be comfortable with whom you are.
As they sometimes say: "You might as well be who you are because everybody else is taken."
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