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writes: How do you deal with a long distance relationship and not worry about them cheating or doing something behind your back? Just mainly how do you deal with it?
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reader, ben.afkl  +, writes (8 October 2008):
You should check this LDR website with tips advice and much more: http://www.waiit.com Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): Finding the right relationship is as difficult as keeping one--especially in your situation at the moment-- the same situation i was into almost two years ago. The most imporant foundation of any relationship is trust, love, respect and PATIENCE ... If u really wanted things to work out between your partner, you both should agree on what ways and how often you would communicate. thanks to the modern technology, means of communications is faster and cheaper. sending an email and meeting onlien for a chat and talking about what had happend from your side of the world would be a good start of openning up. then during the course of your conversation, you can also discuss the plans as to when would u be meeting again in person. The more often you talk, the more open you will become .. and the less you will think of your partner cheating behind your back. Believe it or not, i had a long distance relationship for 2 years and 2 months... the only communication we have is through constant email and chat---which we do everyday --- hope you will also find the way to assure and make your partner feel that he is the only one in your life and that your partner can trust you ... there´sa saying that " do unto others what you want others do unto you " For curtousy reason i send him a message everytime i am out with friends and tell him what time i am going to be home. Once i get home i send him another message talking about how the party or the dinner had turned out.. keeping him posted of my daily activites and prooving that i had kepy my word when i said i will be home on specific hour.
Being in a long distance relationship requires more patience--- a lot of understanding --- positive outlook in life --- little sacrifices --- and tons of self-discipline. slowly plant these little seeds of virtues and you will harvest the fruit of your labor when the right time comes ....
I met a man in a tradeshow four years ago. He is the same man i had exchnged tons of letter, SMS, CHAT and Phone calls for 2 years and 2 months. Now this man is the father of my 5 month old daughter and we are happily married..
hope i was able to help u somehow... all the best for you and your parter ...
God bless
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): My better half and I are seperated by 9,100 miles, and as Irish said, communication is critical. Since my schedual is wacky and he works, we e-mail one another short messages throughout the day, just to let the other know they're though of. Each day or so, I e-mail him about what I did that day, challanges I'm facing, ect and he dose the same. Even though we're not physically together, we both feel involved in one anothers' life. Because I know he's keeping busy, and because he so frequently takes time to send me a quick 'I love you', I don't worry about him straying, and I know he feels the same way.
I hope you can make it work! All the best
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2006): Communication is crucial. Trust takes time to build so one does have to work even harder in a long distance relationship. One good way of building trust, is dependability, consistancy. This is where honest open communication comes in. I am talking about being dependable/consistent with one's actions and what they say. In a long distance relationships, constant talking is critical. Is he consistant? Are you and your mate always contacting each other at your pre-arranged times? Are you talking often? Suspicions grow when one of a couple begins to think, "'Gee, he/she didn't call me tonight..what's up? Why is he/she doing that?. That is so unlike him/her??" But remember, life changes and things can happen. In an LD relationship, one should keep the other informed of those shifts, so it isn't misconstrued. No one goes through life the same way. Changes and fluxes do happen. Setting boundries on what you will tolerate in a relationship, long distance or otherwise, is a good idea. Always let your expectations be known. This builds respect between you both. This doesn't have to be done selfishly or aggressively. But you do need to make it clear that you expect contact and some giving from his end. If he feels resentful of 'giving back' to make it work, then I 'd reassess the relationship. So again communicate who you are and what you expect from this relationship. It gives him a clear understanding of what you will and will not permit in a relationship. He should also be doing the same with you.
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (31 March 2006):
 Well myself i am in a long distance relationship, have found it to be hard work but dont have an trust issues with my boyfriend. i guess the best way to feel trust in a relationship is to be open as a person. you to should be able tell each other your hopes, fear and worries espeically the one that envoles your relationship. sometimes it hard to become an open person if your very closed of but if you are open it helps you if your an insecure person.
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