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writes:I just want to know, how do u become happy and cotnent without a partner in your life and without close friends? some times i feel very lonely and have tried to meet people but they never stay long. for the past few years i have felt like i've lost my way and a bit of myself. any sugestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 Contentment is the key to happiness. I found my God and it gave me peace and a spiritual awakening.
I count my blessings and even though I am not rich by the world's standards, I am happy because I have a healthy body and I have never been sick.
Count your blessings and you will be happy even if you are poor;-
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2007/10/16/count-your-blessings/
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reader, LIERIN  +, writes (26 February 2008):
 I remember having that kinda feeling ...
I moved into this country couple of years ago ... no family,no friends, no relationship ... sometimes I felt so lonely I couldn't stop crying ... I was lost in my dark thoughts ...
I started seeing people .. going out, meeting them online ... etc ... Most of them just become "someone you know" .. not friends .. but I got 3 wonderful friends out of this and a partner that loves me deeply and I love him even more!
If you are looking for a partner I higly recomend one of those match.com or eharmony.com sites. It worked for me and 4 of my other friends around the country .. it will work for you too. You will start doing things, meeting people and you will start living exciting life!
Don't close yourself in a dark lil lonely place!
Life is too short !
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reader, 7th Seeker  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 You sound a lot like me...I know exactly how you feel.
I struggle to make new friends that last. I have lots of acquaintances but few 'real' friends that I hang out with etc. I've also been single for a long time so I know how lonely it can feel.
As for being content despite all this, I learned to be happy on my own. I play the guitar, I write stories, I take a long walk on a sunny day - just because I can...doing things that make *you* feel happy are the key.
Look within yourself and find what makes you happy and doesn't rely on other people. Maybe you only feel sad about not having a partner because everyone expects you to have one?
Don't feel ashamed about these problems, acknowledge them. Try to be happy in the way you carry yourself and live your life the way *you* want to.
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reader, jabey +, writes (25 February 2008):
really the happiest people in the world are those who have a close support network, e.g friends and family.
Before you can really form long, true friendships though, you have to be fairly happy within yourself. Have you a job ? and do you enjoy it? is it what you really want from life/ you are young enough to do so much, read lots, listen to music, watch films. Maybe you could do a college course, in something that interests you. or an evening class.
The more interests you have the more confident you feel, you will find it easier to strike conversations with people around you.
Get to know people, by taking a real interest in them, and sharing stories of your own, and with all your new interests you will have lots to tell. Friend tend to fizzle away when one or both parties get lazy in contact. Mobile, and computers make keeping in touch so much easier.
I have several friends some Ive had for 17 years, and you know theyare a bit lazy, at keeping in touch, but Im not i alwyas text to seehow they are always arrange to meet up. and they love it , some people are a little lazy, its not a personnel thing.
But if you want some good friends and fun initially and maybe always it requires a little effort.
perhaps call up some old friends, ask how they are and arrange to meet up with them, I bet they will be dead chuffed to hear from you.
You can be happy alone but close relationships make life so wondeful, and with all these new people you are going to meet, who knows a partner may just come along to.
Take care, dont be sad, you are young and theres loads of living to be done, and loads of wonderful experiences ahead of you. smile put your shoulders back and start tomororrow like it is your new beginning.xxx
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reader, Instant Classic +, writes (25 February 2008):
I know what u mean :), You have gotta give people a chance, workplace's are easy to make friends, u can just ask what they are doin after, it goes on from there, as for keeping them, u should never have to try and keep a friend, if they are true friends then they will stick around through better and worse, talking on MSN to people helps build confidence aswell,hope I helped
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