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writes:I've been with my partner for 3 years but I still have trouble understanding him. I currently dont have a job but still pay my share of the bills. He expects me to do everything for him and doesn't thank me for doing it. He doesn't even say please. It's driving me nuts. He gets very defensive when I try to talk to him about whats bothering me. He gets very childish. Please dont think hes a bad person, these are my only problems with him. Breaking is not an option. Its to petty to breakup over this. How do women train men without them knowing? And how much do you let slide? Reply to this Question
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 About the bills, it's always best if they are proportional and paid into a joint account. A poor person can't be expected to contribute as much as a rich person, but they should contribute an equal amount based on the wages they have coming in.
Sit him down with all the bills. If you earn 75% less than him, then it's fair you should spend 75% less on bills. This dosen't include the telephone, which is best payed by usage. Sit down and come to a fair compromise, and as soon as you can get more money coming in so he dosen't feel that you are living off him. Also make sure that if you can't afford it, you are not wasting electricity, gas or food and pouring your money down the drain.
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reader, Miamine +, writes (1 March 2010):
Sorry, but I agree.. really don't mean to insult the men, but if you look at them as cute little boys or unruly dogs, then it's easy to see when to say no, and when to say stop. Some men love you, but if they can make you a slave and sit back and become lazy, they'll jump right in at the first chance.
Rules for yourself are necessary... rules like, equality and compromise are best. Sometimes a man must cook, clean and wash clothes if he dosen't want to starve, stay naked and live in a pig sty. Women need to be stronger and sometimes follow the example of men. He's not bothered, so why should you.. I find that little boys and unruly dogs hate when you give them their own medicine..
Sorry guys... really do love you all lots, and I know that all men are different, this is just help for the ones that can't behave and keep messing up the carpets.... lol :)
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 If you want to understand your man , you need to learn his Martian language...LOL! Men have a love language which is completely different from the female's.
They are programmed that way by the maker and being the first prototype, there are some defects in them which cannot be undone. They have limited capabilities unlike the second generation type.
Psychologist Dr Judith Meyerowitz believes that women should start treating their husbands like their pet dogs if it is a happier marriage they are after.
Before you want to marry, you should learn how to keep a pet dog first. After you have obtained the necessary skills, then you can graduate from the dog to the man.
It involves the same skills to keep him happy. It does not require much skill because those dogs are just simple creatures and if you treat them nice, you will get much pleasure from them.
Just use your common sense and keep a spare bone handy when he becomes grouchy.
For more....
How To keep Your Man Happy ?
http://laura1318.wordpress.com/2008/06/09/how-to-keep-your-man-happy/
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (1 March 2010):
 Well I hope you will pardon my initial reaction to your posting, and I could be wrong, but I think that you are the one who has been "trained." Perhaps you are a very giving person and he undoubtedly has the better side of the relationship. Ideally, a good relationship is giving and receiving in equal amounts, but it doesn't always work out that way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2010): Haha I have absolutely no idea. All I know is that I used to be a real ladies man, could smoke whenever I wanted, spend money on whatever I pleased and go wherever I felt like.
Three years into my marriage I wouldn't dream of looking at another woman, I am terrified of my wife finding out about my 'naughty smoke' that I do once a month, I check with my wife before buying anything over £ 100 and I can't remember the last time I planned a trip without first clearing it with the boss.
Don't know how you ladies do it but wouldn't be surprised if there's spells and witchcraft involved...
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