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writes:How do women masturbate and make themselves orgasm? I have tried once (by fingering myself) and it did absolutely nothing for me! It was just gross and I had to wash my hands afterwards... I have heard you have to touch the clitoris but I cant really find it... I think it's sort of hidden under the hood... I have not tried this many times because the one time I did it wasn't very rewarding...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 May 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys.... well I cant really buy a vibrator cuz im 15 and i feel like that would be the most awkward thing ever (to buy it)! Also my mom could see it!
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reader, LittleMissInfo  +, writes (13 May 2008):
 Hiya,
I sometimes masterbate, and i now know what feels good for me. Don't worry it took a while for me to find a way to enjoy it too, but remember that everyone is different, and get turned on in different ways. The best thing to do is just touch yourself in different places and see which feel better. When you have found a spot that feels better work on trying to find a way to build on that feeling. It may take practise, but don't worry.
I first started to masterbate, when i started to interact with boys. When they touched me, it felt good, so i explored that, and did it myself. Just experiement - you'll find something.
Have fun,
LittleMissInfo
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2008): Hi there!!!
Well, I masturbate and I can tell you it feels great! People are different. I agree with the others, explore yourself. Find your clitorus. Once you do, play with that. It feels great! And trying a vibrator can work too. I've had one and it worked out very nicely. =D Just experiment. And definetly explore down there, you need to know everything about you.
Take care! I hope things work out for you!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): Buy a vibrator and poke around until it starts to feel good. Once you find a spot where it feels good, keep going. Maybe clench and relax your kegel muscles as well, this can help to stimulate orgasm. Experimentation is key. You'll pick it up eventually.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 May 2008): Hi, there.
Your clit is generally near the top of your vagina. Have a good look and touch yourself. like Namatjira said, don't try to get an orgasm, try to make your self feel good. Here is a good website that you may fing useful.
http://www.the-clitoris.com/
It is for all ages, by the way. But I'd delete your history if you have nosy parents or you share the computer anyway, as parents are a bit wierd about this, though most know it's normal.
Hope I helped.
Jelly.
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reader, fallenangelwithabrokenheart +, writes (10 May 2008):
Hi there.Well I can only go on my experiences.I went to anne summeres and bought myself a little vibrator.Its length is about the size of a womans hand.It is blue and has a little dolphin on top.When i first used it i thought i was going to explode.You will know if you have the right spot by the way you feel.You just have to relax and put it on your clitorus or that area and move it very slowly until you find the right spot,But relax and enjoy.Its not a dirty thing to do its a wonderfull thing and we should know our bodies.I dont put this inside me just on my clitorus.I hope this has helped and you will enjoy its a wonderfull thing.
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reader, Namatjira +, writes (10 May 2008):
Hi,
While I am not a woman and so cannot give you specific advice, I can tell you that first you do really need to explore yourself. You need to know every curve and fold inside and out. Every woman is a little different down there and you need to know you.
Don't concentrate on trying to orgasm, just on finding out what parts feel a little nicer when you explore them. You may find that it is not all that exciting at first and your mental state and attitude will make a big difference.
Have you ever noticed yourself getting wet down there, not urine, but other secretions? Is this when you think about someone who you really like or who you wish you could be with? If so, that is your body getting turned on and letting you know it likes the idea. Now when you do explore yourself, try to think of whoever got you turned on and excited. Believe me it will help. One thing that most guys do not really get is that for many women sexual excitement is a very mental and emotional thing with the physical side following. So you have got to be in the mood or to create the mood.
The other thing, is that at your age, you are still changing and so your body is still a bit mixed up about this whole puberty thing. Not everything will always work as and when you want it and sometimes you will find yourself turned on when you do not want to be or not excited when you want to be. Do not worry this is normal for most people. But learning to recognise how your body responds is the key to it all. That is why you need to explore yourself.
During your explorations it is probably that one day you will discover that a particular touch in a particular place feels really really nice. Remember it, do it again, concentrate in that area. You may one day surprise yourself with an orgasm and then you will know enough about your own body to help that special love in the future to also get it right. After all, if you do not know what turns you on how can you explain it to your lover?
I wish you all the best and I am sure that the Aunts on here can give you more specific advice.
Take care.
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reader, 15Purple +, writes (10 May 2008):
Yes it is under the hood. Some women are different and prefer to stimulate the clitoris, others like to stimulate the clitoris and simulate a penis sliding in and out with a finger or two at the same time.
There is another spot too. If you put a finger or tow into your vagina and feel right at the top towards the front of your body there is a softer feeling area of skin. This is your gspot. Try stimulating the clitoris and the gspot at the same time....
You just have to experiment and feel comfortable with your changing body.
Sex is a personal thing and you are just getting to know your body. Enjoy your body, but don't go out and have full sex until you are definately ready. It is a very special thing to be a virgin and no matter if everyone else at school is saying they've had sex you will find that most haven't and shouldn't feel pressured by these people. I didn't do it until I was 19 and you are legally allowed to do it at 16 in Britain.
Take care.
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