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writes:my girlfriend and I have gotten together recently, but we've had feelings for each other for a while. we're 16, and it's her first relationship, but we're both certain we have real feelings. my parents couldn't be more happy for us, and really like her. her mum isn't happy about it and cried daily about it. she told my girlfriend she didn't like me, and it's affecting both of us terribly. any advice on ways to win her mother round? Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (17 March 2016):
 Time. And you need to accept she may never like you, but that's just life. It's reality, not a movie. In real life, some parents never like their childrens partners, no matter what! So accept that she may never like you and dont care too much about it. Honestly, it should not affect you, because while you are 16 now and parents play a huge part of your lives, soon you will be adults and no longer dependent on your parents. So whether or not the mother likes you, will not matter in the long run.
You can't do anything to make her like you, you should just let her be and give her time and just see what happens.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (16 March 2016):
 Her mother might just need some time to adjust. Even parents of heterosexual teenagers find it hard to accept that their precious offspring are now considered ‘of age’ and able to enter into relationships.....
There are some resources out there for her mother: http://www.pflag.co.uk/parents.htm
could be a starting point for her.
In the meantime, be caring and considerate for your girlfriend, and her mom!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 March 2016):
 Aw sweetie I think her mother probably just needs to get her head around the fact that her little girl has grown up. Do you think her mother is finding it hard that her daughter is in a same sex relationship? There is not a huge lot you can do here but just be yourself and be polite to her mother, hopefully one day she will see how important you are to her daughter and begin to accept this. Good luck.
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