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writes:Hi, all! My boyfriend and I have been together for a fairly long time (three years), so we've done almost every kind of sex imaginable... except anal. He's literally the only guy I feel comfortable being naked in front of but anal sex is definitely something I'm conscious about. I just want to make sure there isn't a surprise when he sticks it up there.Also, as I'm still a "butt-virgin", how can my bf and I both make this an experience that doesn't hurt TOO much? We've actually tried it once before and that's how I know it hurts so damn much. Pathetic thing is, he barely penetrated anything and I was in pain! Maybe that's a sign that we shouldn't have anal sex but I'm actually all for it whereas he's kind of iffy.But uh... seriously, what should I know about this particular experience and how can my bf and I both it more interesting and enjoyable? Thanks to anyone who can help!
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reader, joiney  +, writes (17 March 2010):
I and my boyfriend have anal, I was apprehensive at first but enjoy it and do it quite often,
if you are going to try then make sure you use lots of lube and you are relaxed, don't have him enter you straight away, try 1 or 2 fingers at first and tell him to be gentle,
there are issues with having anal sex but if you use a condom and a water based lube as well as doing it gentle you will be fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): This is not something you should just jump into for fun. I did, and at first I thought "okay, it hurts, but it's getting better." For the first several times it was okay, but after awhile it hurt more and more, and now, and I hate to even put this up but... I cannot go number two with out a least a little blood coming too. And I'm not even with him anymore. So, think about it, is my advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2010): I and my partner have anal sex and find it a huge turn on,
1st of all I advise you buy some lube!, make sure you are relaxed and don't just jump in, have him or yourself gently insert a finger at first and then if you are comfortable try a 2nd,
There are lots of small anal toys available online, maybe you could try an anal probe as well,
But remember to use lots of lube and go slowly and gently at first!
It took me a whle to be able to fully take my b/f but it was worth all the trying and we always had fun,
If you do find that you both enjoy it I would recommend using a small vibrator in the other hole when doing anal, we have both found it be be double pleasure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): I think you should educate yourself on some of the medical risks of having anal sex before you jump into this, and why are you gung ho when you know it will hurt and he isn't all that much? I personally hate anal sex and won't do it because partly I don't want fisures in my rectum, talk about painful
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): coming from a girl whos tried it a couple time i think the most important thing is you have to really me comfortable dont be tense do it at the moment when your hot and heavy and not thinking about it, but keep in mind for you to start real slow and you choice the speed. some other things that can ease it some what is lube and use fingers to stretch yourself. if you dont do it often its always guna feel alil painful but if you like it it gets better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2010): First, use lots of lube and take it slowly. You need a thick lube like K-Y jelly, not the liquid stuff. Look at this info on anal sex:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/ic_anal.shtml
It matters how big he is, mainly thickness, than it does with vaginal sex. Too thick and it will likely hurt until you get used to it. Also length matters. If he is longer than about 5 inches and tried to go in the entire way then he will likely hit the curve in the rectum and that will feel like cramps.
It sounds like you want it to be successful and want to try it again. You may or may not get to like it after a few tries. Some women never get to liking it, while others have orgasms that way. I have only done it a few times and my wife doesn't like it, but was willing to try a few times. It sometimes hurts and is uncomfortable most of the time. To tell you the truth, it isn't that great for me either. It feels good, but having to be so careful takes the fun out of it for me. Also, I quit as soon as she feels any pain. We have only finished a couple of times.
I have read that some women have gotten used to it by using a butt plug for a while, although we have never tried that and don't intend to. It helps you get used to something that size being in there and helps you relax.
You might never like doing it and that is fine. If it doesn't become fun after a few tries then just give up on it. As I said, it is fun, but not anything that special. I think it is just the idea of doing it that makes it desirable and erotic.
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reader, Toushite +, writes (13 February 2010):
hi i am only 14 years old but i know a lot about sex because i loved to be educated about it.
so anal sex should be pleasurable if u keep doing it but since it is your first time it will hurt. i advice u or your bf get sum kind of lubricant so it will make it easier.
the pain will only be at the entrance of the anus hole but in the inside it wont hurt as much. so worry about if he got it in or not. if he didn't and u r in great pain then u should stop because from what i heard from u can have injuries later on. never rush and take it slow. make sure u guys have a good amount of lube and for him to go slowly. most importantly make sure u both r comfortable with anal sex and make sure u dont have an enema
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