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writes:hi just wanted some advice. im in a relationship with this guy for over a year and a half but i have trust issues with him, and i feel like that cause my past relationships ive been cheated on and he says thats the reason i dont trust him he tells me he loves all the time and tells me hes not gonna hurt me in no way, it got to the point where ive told him i need a break to see how my life will go without him but he says no if i do that then it means i wanna break up with him and i really dont i just dont know what to do is killing me this trust issue with him and all i think im doing is pushing him away,what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2011): first off im no expert or any thing like that how ever i have been in multiple bad relationships and offer my opinion based from my experiences. you have to ask your self are you trust issues because of past relationships or has he him self done some thing to cause the trust issues. if its because of past relationships thios can cause problems and is not fair to him. this could push him away and it dont sound like you want that. if he really loves you he will be paitient and work with you how ever you have to be honest with him and your self and admit this is why you dont trust him and work with him. together you can work it out if you really love each other. now if he has done some thing to betray your trust then it is up to him to earn that trust back but you have to be willing to let him earn it back. he has to understand that it will be hard for you to trust him again and it will take time. again if he really loves you he will understand. now if he is trying to earn your trust and he keeps doing thing to betray that trust it has been my experience that this will not stop. i my self have been here the women i have been with betray my trust in major ways and when i give them a chance to earn it back they blow it again. currently i am going through this very thing my girl has betraied my trust over and over and over and well you get the hint for the last 2 years i love her very much and want more than any thing to be with her grow old and live happily ever after together how ever this cant happen now cause of what she has done to me i would be a fool to go back and stay with her cause the bs never stops. when you love some one its hard to give up on them but there does come a time when you have to ask your self is there a light at the end of the tunnel or does the tunnel keep getting deeper? i know what i need to do but to do it i have to be strong and not go back with her and im hoping im strong enough. as for you i can not tell you what to do for 1 i would need more details and 2 even if i had more details this is some thing only you can decide i can only share with you my opinion here andhope it helps you in some small way i truely wish you the best of luck and hope you are able to get what ever the problem is worked out because it sound like you love him. you have to have 3 thing to make a relationship work LOVE, TRUST, HONESTY. if even one of these is missing it will not work. hope this help in some way best of luck to you
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