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writes:have been dating my girlfriend for the past 5months n we seem going on very well.am the type of person who always like to chat with her but it seems she is the exact opposite of me..she never mind not talking to me the whole day and even if she does we should just spend few minutes talking, she also is not boarded about that..i confronted her on this issue and the respond she jilted out was that,we're beyond the stage in our relationship where we have to talk for so long.for her have gotten her and that what matters.am worried about that,since am a person who likes that and am thinking she doesn't love me as much as i do but she always tells me that who she is and she loves me,if not that she woundn't be wasting our time.but i doubt and have decided to halt the relationship earlier to wean further problem..but i love her and want something i could do to get her total concentration over me? Reply to this Question
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reader, grymsoul  +, writes (1 May 2012):
 "i love her and want something i could do to get her total concentration over me?"
Sounds like a total ego trip for you, buddy. Why do you need her full concentration on you? Do you not think she needs a life outside of yours? Take it from me, the more time you guys spend with eachother, the faster the relationship burns out. Like the saying goes 'Distance makes the heart grow fonder'.
She says she loves you. She's in a relationship with you. You have both established a loving connection with eachother. But you halted the relationship because you felt that she just wasn't giving you the attention you wanted? Where are your goals and life expectancies outside of a relationship? If you concentrated more on those things then you wouldn't be in as much need of attention as you are now.
I'm surprised you haven't chased her away because clinginess is a major red flag. Here's some advise. If getting closer to her doesn't get her attention. . .then try getting distant. Maybe she'll realize that she could be losing you and she'll start giving you more attention.
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reader, Starlights  +, writes (30 April 2012):
 If she says she loves you, Why do you find it hard to trust her?
the way i see things; we are all different. We all show our love in different ways.
Just because one person doesnt show or react to love the same way as you do doesnt mean they dont love you.
Ask yourself do you feel loved and appreciated by her? if so, continue with the relations, if not, tell her how you truly feel in the hope that you can gain her insight to fix this.
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