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writes:hi everyone, i like this boy but i found him hugging another girl... they're dating. he doesn't know i like him. does anyone, i mean ANYONE know how i can "terminate" the girl so ill have a chance with him?ill take any advice. if anyone does reply to this, please dont lecture me about how i should leave the girl's life alone and let her and the boy i like be together. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Hello I am going to give you a lecture so why not give a listen! Have we any ideas? I suggest you get rid of your anger but not in the way you think...to terminate someone is not going to help you with anything. and i would remember you hurt the girl you will be found out.Deal with it in the real way that shows STRENGHTH . do nothing at all to her... Look on her in innocence and find yours. You do not have any right in this world to TERMINATE anybody and there is enough ugliness in the world with out you adding to it. You will harm yourself...an innocent girl...the boy...and the family of the girl and your own family. This girl may one day have beautiful children to bring in the world and you cannot terminate future generations either. You too oneday may have beautiful children to bring into the world and so on...you must loose this anger and revenge and turn yourlife around before it is too late. Start today....become a STRONG woman NOT A WEAK DUMB BRAIN, because as long as you talk crap like this you are a waste of space. Destroy one life and you destroy many But SAVE one life and you save many! INCLUDING YOURS. Make something of yourself and put your anger into achieving positive goals. Grow tall and strong and learn to LOVE NOT HATE. Thats the lecture its your CHOICE which road you go down....infact ill give you an idea of two possible ways...CHOICE 1. A young woman wasting away in prison. No freedom. Full of Guilt and remorse. A no hoper that is of no use to this planet. A hated woman that peolpe spit on. Nobody will want you as a mother or wife.Choice 2. A young woman who has made her life good A mother, grandmother, wife, a woman that has freinds and family who love and respect her. A loving kind woman, who people kiss when they greet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Symptoms
Narcissistic personality disorder symptoms may include:
Believing that you're better than others
Fantasizing about power, success and attractiveness
Exaggerating your achievements or talents
Expecting constant praise and admiration
Believing that you're special
Failing to recognize other people's emotions and feelings
Expecting others to go along with your ideas and plans
Taking advantage of others
Expressing disdain for those you feel are inferior
Being jealous of others
Believing that others are jealous of you
Trouble keeping healthy relationships
Setting unrealistic goals
Being easily hurt and rejected
Having a fragile self-esteem
Appearing as tough-minded or unemotional
Although some features of narcissistic personality disorder may seem like having confidence or strong self-esteem, it's not the same. Narcissistic personality disorder crosses the border of healthy confidence and self-esteem into thinking so highly of yourself that you put yourself on a pedestal. In contrast, people who have healthy confidence and self-esteem don't value themselves more than they value others.
When you have narcissistic personality disorder, you may come across as conceited, boastful or pretentious. You often monopolize conversations. You may belittle or look down on people you perceive as inferior. You may have a sense of entitlement. And when you don't receive the special treatment to which you feel entitled, you may become very impatient or angry. You may also seek out others you think have the same special talents, power and qualities — people you see as equals. You may insist on having "the best" of everything — the best car, athletic club, medical care or social circles, for instance.
But underneath all this grandiosity often lies a very fragile self-esteem. You have trouble handling anything that may be perceived as criticism. You may have a sense of secret shame and humiliation. And in order to make yourself feel better, you may react with rage or contempt and efforts to belittle the other person to make yourself appear better.
Risk factors
Narcissistic personality disorder is thought to be uncommon, affecting less than 1 percent of people in the United States. It affects more men than women. Narcissistic personality disorder often begins in early adulthood. Although some adolescents may seem to have traits of narcissism, this may simply be typical of the age and doesn't mean they'll go on to develop narcissistic personality disorder.
Although the cause of narcissistic personality disorder isn't known, researchers continue to learn more about the factors that may increase the risk of developing the condition. These risk factors may include:
An oversensitive temperament as a young child
Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents
Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback
Unpredictable or unreliable caregiving from parents
Severe emotional abuse in childhood
Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or talents by adults
Learning manipulative behaviors from parents
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008):
If you are willing to do something nasty to a girl to get her boyfriend then that makes you really bitchy. If it gets out what you did, the boy you like will hate you and everyone will be calling you a bitch behind your back.
I think you need to take a step back at this situation and re-think it. Either you accept the boy is with someone else, and move on, or you keep quiet until his is single again.
By the way "terminate" I hope you don't mean you want to kill her? That sounds a bit drastic to me!
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reader, hannahlucy  +, writes (23 November 2008):
no offence but it's quite petty, and hurtfull, imagine that you were with this guy n she was going to do the same to you, but it's your choice. just think about it before you do something you'll regret
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): No lecture.You have zero chances of getting the guy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): sorry but i can't reply to that..don't mean any harm but honestly it's quite mean..I'm sure you wouldn't like someone doing that to you and taking the one you love from you...
think about it..but it's your choice...=/
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2008): Even if they do break up, it doesn't necessarily mean he'll come running to you, or even see you as more than a friend. And you will have done something stupid and petty for no reason. Think about it.
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