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writes:Dear agony aunts, I have been crushing on this guy for about a year now, and I believe it may even be love at, well, second sight. We're really good friends now and he seems to be flirting with me a lot. I don't want to sound like another obsessed teenage girl, because I'm not. I know when something's strong and I've only felt for three guys my entire life. I just really need to know how to tell him how I feel. When we talk he seems to be really intent on me. He looks into my eyes so deeply. I read somewhere that a guy's pupils will dialate when he's really into someone or thing. Maybe it was the lighting or something, but his pupils were dialated. How do I know he likes me, and how do I tell him that I love him?
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reader, Jazzy924  +, writes (16 November 2009):
thats how i was at first i started to have feelings for him but ididnt kno if he had it for me and i aint want to out of the blue and tell him that i love him till one day he told me. But really i feel if you love him you should let him kno so you wont worry yourself and to kno if he loves you back so you wont stress you self over it. i hope i helped
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 October 2009):
Don't tell him you love him, you;ll scare him away. You need to get talking to him first, to see if he likes you. Take the relationship slowly and get to know him, so then yoou know whether you do love him or not.
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reader, Lola1 +, writes (2 October 2009):
 Saying "I love you" makes you SOUND like an obsessed teenage girl. It will completely creep him out. As the others have WISELY advised, DO NOT DO THAT!!!!!!!
That eyes dilating crap is... sad to say.. crap. :( Pupils do not react to emotions. Not sure where you read that.
How do you find out if he's interested? There is no secret code for finding that out that you aren't privy to. You have the same choices we all do. You simply have to wait until he makes a move, or make it yourself.
To encourage him to make a move (which may be the easiest and less vulnerable way to move things along) you can try to add a little bit of "flirt" to your interactions with him. You can touch his hand or arm when speaking to him, and make sure you are sending the right signals. See what happens after that and then come back with an update.
Invite him and some mutual friends to do an activity together. A get-together at your house, for example. Halloween is coming. It would be a great opportunity to have a horror-movie-marathon! When he arrives, try to sit near him and grab his arm when something jumps out! That's just an example.
Good luck.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (2 October 2009):
 Don't drop the "L" bomb. It's something that you can't take back, once it's out there - and you don't want it hanging out there if he isn't ready to say it back yet!
Talk about how you feel instead. It's okay to say 'I think that you are soooo cute' or 'You are the one person that I want to run and tell when something great happens to me' - these kind of comments. They will indicate to him how You 'feel' without having to say "I LOVE YOU". They will help coax him out and let him know that it's oaky for him to state his feelings for you. You just don't want to blurt this out without SOME mutual feelings going on, because it could possibly scare him off if he isn't there yet... Just a thought.
Good Luck Sweetness!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 October 2009): well, I don't think you tell him you love him cause you don't know how he feel.Just wait he tell you first.If he really love you he will come to you. You just need to little paitant.just wait.You still young.OK.. Just realx.
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